[Dudee]

Hi. I'm new here. I'm 18. I'm going to write a huge story so brace yourselves.

There is a girl who has been in my class for the last 4 years, and I never gave too much attention for her since she was a little wild for me back then and was already dating, so I just kept moving with my life until she broke up with her boyfriend last year, then we started becoming friends, nothing too serious but now we are getting closer and closer for the last months.

At first I thought something could happen between us, but in the beginning of our friendship she asked what I thought about her and I said she was cool and stuff, then I asked about me and she said she likes skinner guys but some friends of her would like "guys like me", I don't know what that means, but I guess it's not good stuff, and another time she said that she has a fine line drawn between friendship and relationship and it sometimes make her sad that she can't have friends without them wanting to make out with her. One day I made that impression and it was horrible she was really upset and it took me some time to make everything allright again and gladly I did.

So with all that I thought I had 0 chances fo'sho and just kept going but sometimes it feels like we are a couple you know, if she feels pain in her neck I massage her, last week she had a fever in class and was really sick, so I went down 6 floors to buy her a bottle of water so she could feel better, she said the sweetest thank you I ever heard. Sometimes we spend a whole class hugged, she puts her head on my shoulder and I put my arm around her and we just stay that way. Yesterday she was cold and so was the weather but I borrowed my jacket for her so she would be warmer even though she had one and I got left with nothing. Things like this makes me feel really close to her and I'm afraid I like her so much I don't want to screw everything. She wants to come to my house so we can play videogames and stuff and this will be really difficult for me but I guess I can handle it, I asked if she sometimes want to come to see a movie but then she suggested that a lot of people come because its funnier.

I really don't know what to do. Im afraid if I open up we'll never tallk again and I'll ruin everything. But I don't know if I can hold it much longer on that pace. What should I do? Should I back it off a little and watch my feelings go away before I do something stupid? Should I clear the air, tell her how I feel and pray that this won't change things between us. Or should I know my place, I'll never have a chance with her, and just try and keeping up with our friendship on a less close approach?

Thanks in advance for the answers, I'm lost and anything will be helpful

[VRon1]

OMG. I know what you mean, I am on the same damn boat. Though I'm an 18 year old girl.

This is a tough one. I can only tell you what I did and what happened and you can decide for yourself if it will help.

Well I told him we need to talk. But my one mistake was I did not prepare myself. I got really nervous and scared so I blurted everything out and it became confusing so I suggest to plan what you say carefully. And stay calm. Take the attempt to tell her slowly. He was so caught off guard so if she doesn't respond immediately don't freak out and say you take it all back (I didn't do that, ha I said what I said and meant it) you took the time to think it through so she should also have time to think about it.

Do you spend a lot of time with her? If you spend more than six hours a day with her you definitely need some more time with out her to really decide what you want. I suggest you do this before confronting her.

I hope this helps

[Dudee]

Hey thanks for the answer. Yes it is very though, we spend all day together sometimes.
Today me, her and a another couple went bowling, it was really fun, later the day we spent a lot of time alone watching a volleyball game, she likes it a lot so I made her company. I felt like I could do something there, but it didn't feel right, I mean looks like she's insecure with this too and we are both afraid of doing something stupid and putting our friendship on danger. So we've just kissed goodbye on the cheek.

The thing is, I would have much more confidence if I knew for a fact that she likes me the way I do now, but when my friends try to insinuate something with her she readyfully says that we are just friends and stuff. That crushes me, I don't know if I ever will be able to tell her, and I don't know if I can keep friends for much longer , maybe I should tell her and end with everything for once.

She's coming to my house next Wednesday to play some games so we'll have a good alone face time I think this will be it.

[Som3Guy]

Ahw I feel you. I'm being through the same thing. You didn't felt any opening with her? Good luck to you my man it sucks to feel that way.