[MOTOR89]

Hi
I've been going out with her for 4 years now, started dating after high school. We were both each others first. Been through a lot together. Most of the relationship has been long distance, being that I'm in the military.
I am now finally at a base now I'll be here for a couple years. So I bought my own place. She has one more year of school left, and I think she is assuming that she will be moving in with me. I know for sure that I don't want that. The past year I've been thinking of breaking it off, but keep telling myself it will get better. One weekend will be fun, but the next couple aren't. She's a great girl but, I'm feeling that I don't love her like I used to. When you're with some one you should want to see them and talk to them all the time, or at least that's what I want, but with her I don't. I feel bad because I respect her too much.
So this is my dilemma,what should I do?

[talaniman]

This is your g/f of 4 years but you are to scared to be honest and do the right thing by her? That's cruel, and mean, not to mention cowardly.

Do what right, and honorable, by telling her the TRUTH, and stop leading her on. Look I know its hard, but its the right thing to do, and as soon as possible.

[Devorameira]

Tal's right. If you truly respect her you will tell her the truth and quit living a lie.

Sure she'll be hurt and upset, but she'd be more hurt and upset a year from now. Do it this week and get it behind you.

[Homegirl 50]

You think she is assuming. If you have not lead her to think any other why, what do you expect?
Stop lying to her and leading her on. Tell her the truth and be done with it.

[none12345]

Sometimes you don't know what you've got till its gone. Some people would do anything to have someone in their life that loves them that much. If you truly loved her before, you ll have to let her go and not be selfish and don't string her along.