[Easylife]

Hey everyone, I know there are a lot of these stories on the net but I want to get some feedbacks form you.
So me and my girlfriend are or were dating 2 years, the last 8 month I was studying and I was away from the country. When I came back things were a little confusing emotianally for me and for her but nevertheless, after a month everything seemed fine like the first year of dating. We love each other a lot. Two week I found out she was writing messages on Facebook with some guy who lives in other city. There was nothing phisical or anything serious because there were only 5 massages in a month. After that I confronted her and she admitted about writing messages and she said she doesn't know why she did this and also she said that she never told to that guy about me. I told her that I am leaving her because this can't end up well, so she cried and told me she will write message to this guy tell him everything, delete him from Facebook and that she loves me, misses me and she doesn't know what is happening to her but together we can work things out. So we kept seeing each other and everything seemed fine. Three days ago we mutualy agreed that she needs some time to figure out herself and let me know what is going on with her. Since than I text message her once told her that I love her and care about her. She wrote that I am still in her heart and she misses me. From now on I moved on a little, since I have a lot of daily activities but in the evening I still think about her but I promised to myself I will not talk to her unless she is ready to speak to me.
Any comments or suggestions what I should do and if it is normal for girls to take sometime away?
P.S. If this time that she needs will go for a couple of weeks or longer I will sail away

[talaniman]

I told her that I am leaving her because this can't end up well, so she cried and told me she will write message to this guy tell him everything, delete him from Facebook and that she loves me, misses me and she doesn't know what is happening to her but together we can work things out

Sail away. Its sounds like she wanted to dump you anyway, and not be dumped by you. Threatening a break up, over 5 Facebook messages was a bit an over reaction, and making someone beg to get you back will do that to a person.

[Devorameira]

Tal is right. You're the one that over-reacted. It would be different if she was sending bunches of e-mails, texts, and meeting up with him, but good grief... 5 Facebook messages with only friendly undertones? Get serious.

I honestly don't blame her for wanting the break-up. If you get that worked up over 5 friendly messages, I'm afraid that you'd be falsely accusing her of everything during her life.

Move on!

[answerme_tender]

This sentence in your post:

Three days ago we mutualy agreed that she needs some time to figure out herself and let me know what is going on with her.

If you mutually agreed what's that problem. This is a relationship, which means you don't get to be the BOSS! You keep trying to dictate how this relationship is going to work then you need to stop threatenting and start sailing away!!

[Easylife]

Thanks for your comments guys, but I think you misunderstood me a little and you think I am a complete *******. I did not actually told her we are breaking up, I just said that maybe it is in our best interest to stop this relationship and think through where we stand in this relationship. I am not a control freak, and I do not boss her around telling her what to do all the time. We make mutual decisions most of the time on what to do or where to hang around. We trust each other a lot and tell everything all the time. She is very attractive girl so she gets approached by guys everyday. She always tells me stories how some guys talk to her during the day and we laugh at it together. But what made me cautious this time is that she never told me about these messages and even tried to hide them or not admit to them at first. But here is the follow up, she called last evening and we talked for about 5 minutes. I did not ask her anything about these messages or about the guy, instead we just talked about regular daily stuff(work, her sister, my and her day). She also started to talk about our plans in the near future like halloween, friend's birthday party coming in November...
So my question is now was that phone call a sign that she tought everything through and ready to keep our relationship going, and I can go on and call her or text her the way I did before? Or I should give her more time and wait to contact me again?
Thanks

... Sorry and another point is that I found out that she met this guy once at some party when he was in town but didn't see him since and after that they start writing messages. I would say that the messages where a little more than just friendly, she said stuff like " iam thinking of you, miss you and how you doing in general". I know she didn't cheat on me that night because some of my friends were in the taxi when they droped her off at the house, so I am assuming they met at the party this guy dropped a few beautiful lines like everyguy is doing to get into girls pans, and after that they start to message each other on Facebook