[confusedlove1]

About 2 months ago, my boyfriend and I of over a year, broke up. It took him over a week to break up with me because he wasn't sure if he wanted to. He said it was the hardest thing he's ever had to do and he cried when he done it. His reason was because he was going off to college for his second year.. I know he's young and of course he's going to wonder what its like to be single in college, ever 19 yr old guy does. So, after the break up we went through the whole being mad at each other and fighting.. and every time he would see me he would start crying. He said he regretted breaking up with me, but still doesn't want a relationship. It is kind of hard to start up a relationship in the middle of a school year when you don't see each other often anyway. We ended up having sex and I regretted it at first, but he treated it like it meant something to him. After we finally got past all of the fighting and we have become very good friends again. He initiates contact all day, everyday. We talk about everything and get along very well. He hasn't asked me to hang out since we broke up. He was on spring break and wants to hang out and take me out to eat. For the first time in a while, we got in a very little disagreement the other night because he gets so irritated when I ask questions. He said "thats probably the reason we arent dating". Well what does that mean? Does it mean he is thinking about getting back with me?

He tells me that he flirts with girls and stuff at college, which I do the same thing, were only human right? But, he tells me that he still loves me, he just doesn't want a serious long-distance relationship until he's out of college. I also understand because its hard to have a long distance relationship, even though I would be willing to work it out. I think everyone just needs to mature a little more and figure out what we really want.. what's meant to be will find a way right? He is now almost treating me like we date by the way he talks and acts. Im just afraid that he is going to try and use me for sex since we had sex once about a month ago. What does everyone think? Is this a game, or do you think he really is trying to have something long term with me in the future?

[babygirltrash]

Emm I think he's using you for sex I have been trow that stuff and back

[vanheart]

Hes told you in every way he doesn't want a relationship with you.

Once you realize that & that its over, you can move on.

Don't talk to him anymore. Let him go. Don't be his friend.

You have your whole life ahead. Don't go backwards. There's way more fun to be had.

Plus, what do want do? Live in indecision, jealousy and limbo? Waiting for something that's already in the past?

I say no.

[BrOkEn_StAr]

Hmmmm don't believe him my friend had da same problem her boyfriend told her that he loves her she is the only person who he see in this world and after that he had sex with her 2 times and after that he told her if you love me I want you to have sex with my friend DON'T EVER TRUST SOMEONE LIKE THIS PERSON sorry about saying this but I'm trying to wake you up hope you find out what you want to do!!

[talaniman]

Why are you even bothering with someone that has dumped you, and pursuing other options??

What's up with that? Is this false hope on your part? Of course it is, that's why your confused.

Talaniman Rule - Don't miss other opportunities and options because your stuck on someone who is not as stuck on you, that’s just plain crazy.

He can't use you for sex, unless you let him.