[Nathan19]

Okay I need some help...

Okay I Have Known This Girl For About 3 Years And She Go's Out With Someone I Know
And I Never Relly Looked At Her in Any Other Way Just new She was with Someone I Knew
So About 3months ago I get a Message on Facebook saying. .

Do you know what nathan?
Don't take this the wrong way.
But I prefer talking to you than My Own Boyfreind.
I feel more like myself,
Like I am with my mates,my boyfreind just puts a downer on me lol

So I replied Saying Aww You know What You've Made my Day you can talk to me When ever.
And You shouldn't have a boyfreind that moans about you.

But Anyway It Came To Her Getting My Mobile Number She Started Texting Me Daily With Texts Like Good Moring.. and Texts Saying She Loves Me And Im the Best And I Make Her Day Im Like Her Sun I keep Her Warm Ettc.
And Text Convos That Where Like 50 messages Long..
In One week we sent over 2,000 messages But In These messages we became close "In My Case Very Close"
But I started to get messages like this I'm only going to put one as I have many

Haha, I know..
Im just comenting on how weird it feels to be in bed without sweet fresh memories of you to help me drift off ) xxx.
I actually wish you was with me right now :). Come mine? Haha jokes.
I wouldn't mind but my mum might, loo.. Xx

Okay so I've been told this is just Flirting But Im The Sort of Boy Who Don't See This What Would This Tell You?
Rember She Has A Boyfreind..
And This Is One Of Many Messages I have..


So I was Just Being Myself Doing Things How I would We Started Meeting And Going For Late night Walks.
Watching movies.
When She Was Baby sitting I Helped.
Playing xbox
Having a really Great Time
I Mean Even Down To The Xbox She Would Play At Her Boyfreinds House And He Would Fall A Sleep.
And We Would Play until early Hours Of The Morning..

I For Get To Add She Always Used To Say Good Things About Me Like Im Cute Really Good Looking Smart Brainy
And The Most Important One Was She Has Fancyd Me Since The 1st Day She Saw Me <3
We Hugged Often And Had One Kiss..

So I started too Feel Like Loved Because (I Don't Get A lot of female aettion Because I'm verry picky with girls Im Capricorn LOL)
Witch Is Great But Nothing Was Happening..

So one Time She Was At Mine I Said Look I Feel Your Leading Me On
" By This i Mean Shes Telling me She loves Me And She Has A boyfreind And Shes saying she loves me i dont wanna be second best I Must Be Worth More"
She Said Im Not.. (In Person)

Later That Day I Got A Text Saying I Would Never Lead You On All I have Ever Wanted is To Be Friends.(Do Friends Do Stuff And Say Stuff Like That?)
So I repli Saying Fine I'm sorry you feel this way I think I would be best if we don't talk nomore (Because Of My Feelings And Not Wanting To Be Friends or Second Best)
She Promised Me She wouldn't Text me again.
So I Stopped Texting For 3 Days I Get a Message About my Braclet She Had Of Mine
I Never Replied To That Message I Ignored Her
I Stopped Texting Her For 9 Days in Total (dont Sound A lot But If You Have feelings Nine Days Felt Along Time)
Then A Good Friend Of Mine Said Just Text Her..

So I Text Her Saying I Had No Creidit And I Couldn't Reply To Her Message About The Braclet And I Asked How She was
I Got Replys but They Where Short And (Didnt Have The Same Vibe As They Used To) I Miss Texting Her And Seeing Her
All My Mates Say Move On But I don't want To The Way I See It Is we Had Something Why Let Go.?
But I Also feel It Will Be Easy For Her To forget me If She Alreddy Has A boyfreind...



Basically what Do I do Next As we Don't Talk Often Now (But I Don't Want to Keep Chasing)
Im Looking For methods To get Her To Attention
I have Her Mobile Number
Facebook

Hope sumone can help

Thanks :(

[redhed35]

Your post was difficult to read,but I got through it.

She has a boyfriend she's off limits.

Whether she was teasing you or just did not understand the bounderies of friends is much of a muchness now.

Move on.

Stick with no contact this time,don't get emotionally involved with girls who have boyfriends,don't chase girls who have boyfriends.

It's a good rule of thumb for life!

[redhed35]

Nathen,its not very often when someone asks for advice that they get to hear what is it they WANT to hear,that there's is some trick or tip to get the person they want,get them back,love them etc.

There is'nt one.

The girl has a boyfriend,if she wanted you she would be with you,but she's not.

Stop chasing her,and move on.

[Cat1864]

Nathan, how old are you?

Please review the rule for using the agree/disagree feature:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forum-...nes-24951.html

If you don't agree with the advice given, please, use a post to talk about it instead of a 'comment'.

[I wish]

Check out this thread: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ip-463250.html

It might give you some insights on someone who is already in a relationship.

[talaniman]

Think with your head on your shoulders will you. What does she need with you when she has a boyfriend? Why do you allow yourself to be teased by a cheater? What makes you think she is even worth it when you already know what she does behind her boyfriends back? What even makes you think she is only teasing after you?

If you haven't figured out she is fishing for a fool to use, then have at it.

[Kitkat22]

What a little cheater she is. She is into teasing and you will be hurt very badly if you continue pursuing her.

It may get physical if her "other" boyfriend finds out. Guess what Nathan? She'll love it to see two guys fight over her.

She'll giggle about it to her friends
And you'll feel ridiculous.

[Nathan19]

Im 21

[Nathan19]

Hi Thanks For Your comment Its very Hard To Move On But As The Days go On Without Talking Things are Getting Easyer But Like I Said I don't get A lot Of Females In My Life As Im So Pickyy

[Nathan19]

Okay From My Post would You Say This is leading sumone on? And I have stop all contact with her its just hard to stop contact

[redhed35]

Nathan,if you use the answer box instead of the comment box,you will have more room to post and others will see your post.

Yes,going no contact is the thing to do.

Get busy doing other things and you won't have time to think about making contact.

[Nathan19]

All Of Your Answers Are Great And I have put them All together And it works I have removed her of my Facebook and stopped all contact with her The Only Thing is when I bump in to her my heart drops (Its Like It Starts All over again) any ideas of how to stop this

[Cat1864]

Is there any way to change your habits so that you are less likely to bump into her?

It will be a roller coaster for a while. Doing the things that you enjoy and meeting new people will eventully help even out the low points.

If you bump into her, be polite IF you have to speak to her, otherwise ignore her. This is about you healing not her getting her feelings hurt.

Good luck.

[Nathan19]

Thanks too all of the advise given this girl is rarely on my mind and all your advise was taken and I'm proberbly a better person for leaving her any ways

THANKS :)