[dregirl]

Me and my roomies went clubbing and I met this cute guy. We danced for the whole night. I never left his side. We exchanged numbers and stuff. He also told me to add him on fb. I was searching for him on fb the other day but wasn't finding him;so I called him and at first,it seemed like he didn't remember who I was and then he did. Before hanging up he said he would text me. However, he didn't text me right away. It took about 5 hours before he actually texted me. From there we started getting to know each other.

However, he keeps calling me "baby" and "sweetheart" and he is saying that he can't stop thinking about me from the previous night and that he misses me. Most of the questions I have asked him; I believe I have received genuine answers. He says that he would want a long term relationship with me and would love to get to me better. He also asked if I was a virgin and I said yes and I asked if he would wait on me and he said yes. Another moment he asked if within 2 years.. I wouldn't give it up and I said no. I asked if he'd still wait and he said yes he would. He is constantly telling me sweet nothings now when we talk. It's been two days now since we've been getting to know each other.

I would like to know if he genuinely likes me or he has something up his sleeves. I really like him and he has said that he likes me.However, I want to know if he is for real and that he won't take advantage of me. How can I know this? I'm 20 and he's 21.

[tickle]

He sounds about as genuine as a three dollar bill. You have to learn how to read these guys, dregirl. He asked you if you were a virgin which is a huge red flag telling you to run the other way. I can tell you for sure he won't 'wait' as soon as he draw you in.

Tick

[tickle]

He sounds about as genuine as a three dollar bill. You have to learn how to read these guys, dregirl. He asked you if you were a virgin which is a huge red flag telling you to run the other way. I can tell you for sure he won't 'wait' as soon as he draws you in. Nope, run the other way. You will know when you have found the 'right' one.

Tick

[Jake2008]

I am sending you a giant church bell, and there are dozens upon dozens of red flags attached to it, and the pictures of the thousands of young women who have fallen for a smooth talkin', two-steppin', man. Wasn't it ZZTop's song, "every girl's crazy bout' a sharp dressed man"? That sort of sums up what my impression is here.

You had a fun evening with a fun guy in a bar with friends. You've been talking to him for only two days, and you have already given him far too much information, such as you being a virgin. That should be reserved, in my opinion, for a relationship that has actually started, or a serious friendship even, at some point way down the road, past a casual encounter at a club and a few conversations over electronic media.

With what you have so far, which is zero information, and even less experience with him in person, I urge caution. Extreme caution.

I wouldn't go so far as to say he is a bad person, or he's out to get lucky, but, if I had to say one way or the other, I'd agree with Tickle, and say, he's only after one thing- at this point.

Keeping that in mind, be critical and honest with yourself, and if you do date this guy, and you find the conversations going down the path of negotiating your virginity, as it already has with him asking you if you'd 'give it up after two years', then run, don't walk, out the nearest exit, and don't look back.

[martinizing2]

Yes he is for real.
Really after sex.

If you were interested for the long term
You would want to know likes and dislikes,
Some of her history , interests
And if you have fun every time you are together.
Virginity would not come up the second day.

If you only want sex, then finding out about virginity will reveal :

1. If no,
The chances are good because somebody found a
Way. Start lying and telling her anything she wants to
Hear until she gives in.

2. If she is,
Her inexperience can be exploited to make it
Easy to find the right story, which is usually like;
I want you forever, and since we will be together forever
You might as well give it up now to show me you love me
Then it will be easier to be faithful. I might have to cheat if you isn't
Puttin out.
Promise or say anything she wants to hear.
You won't be around to live up to any of it.


What little he said speaks volumes.

See how long he hangs around after you refuse sex.
And I think you will have the opportunity to do so soon.