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    jeffhunter Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 27, 2010, 01:13 AM
    Should I give her a second chance when she stood me up
    I texted this girl if she would like to meet up for lunch yesterday at 1 she replied yea sounds good so I went to were we planned to meet up at 1 I waited 20 minutes so I just left . She didn't turn up I thought that was because I stood her up last year cause I was nervous.
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    Aug 27, 2010, 03:04 AM

    I'd try again,. only I'd use my phone to actually make a call and talk.
    That's a strange use for a phone , but I'm old school and find that an actual conversation in normal-speak seems to work better than texting. For me anyway.
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    Aug 27, 2010, 03:24 AM
    If she stood you up to get back at you for you standing her up, a year ago- that is a long time to hold a grudge. What would she do if you forgot to put the toilet seat down.

    I presume that you apologized to her for standing you up by the way.

    I agree with Martin, use a phone, and actually converse the old fashioned way. ;) You can pick up a lot from tone, reflection, etc. and have a better idea if she is really interested, or has no intention of dating you now that she has had her revenge.
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    Aug 27, 2010, 09:00 AM

    Good grief, you really think she forgot what you did a year ago? Well I guess you did. Oh well, leave her alone, now, and forever. Who's next on the list for a lunch date?
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    Aug 27, 2010, 09:06 AM

    I agree with moving on but also with one more stab. Depending on the reasons for not showing (obvious blow-off vs couldn't make it with an offer to re-schedule) I'd say why not. If she blows you off again you know forsure, if she doesn't, order the chicken.
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    Aug 27, 2010, 09:20 AM

    I agree with Jake. I am a Female and absolutely rule out "dating" via text. Its fine & totally acceptable once a rapport has been established and for casual conversations. However, if you were truly "interested" in her and she didn't show up or was very late; my thoughts are, why you didn't "call" her to follow up? Ask if she was all right? After all, she could have been lost, sick, forgot or detained?? Or, simply forgot... in any case, a live call from you would have been appropriate & shouldn't assume someone would treat you badly, without regard or basic manners. If that's the case, I would say; "next"... lots of great girls out there!
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    Aug 27, 2010, 09:40 AM

    The chances of getting another date with this girl is probably slim to none. Too many mind games involved anyway. You can try again, but don't expect too much from her.

    As for future dates with her or anyone else, USE THE PHONE!
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