[hallie78]

Me and my two bestest friends have been best friends for the last 2 years. Well this last week one of them was joking around and started saying she hates me. She didn't realize that it was actually really hurting my feeling and my other friends kind of sided with her (this one Ive been best friends with for about 4 yrs) and it really hurts when one of your best friends tells you she likes your other best friend more. They were joking ut they don't understand it hurt my feelings. We do about everything together and they call me names ever so often and it does hurt my feeling but I know they're joking. We are known to be best friends all around school. I have a lot of other friends and I started hanging out with them because I didn't want to be made fun of so they got offended by me sitting with my other friends so they were like "what the hell" and so I just avoided them the rest of the day. Tonight my friend texted me Hey loser and I said you OK and she's like whatever ____ likes me better and then I confronted her thaat she was hurting my feelings. She blamed this whole thing on me and Im tired of all this. Should I forgive her and move on or have I had enough?

[loveless044]

Sounds to me like they don't deserve the title "friends". They seem to be taking advantage of you because you're a little more sensitive than they are. But that's no reason to push you around.

You were right to find some new friends.

If they continued to be jerks even after you confronted them, then you should just stay away from them.

They seem to be bullying you. Which is not tolerable. If you have any more problems from them, you should tell your school principle.

No one deserves to be treated like that. Just stay away from those girls. They seem to be bad news.

[Homegirl 50]

No one can answer that question but you.
If you are really hurt, if you are really tired of being hurt by them then you have had enough.
Have you ever told them how you feel?

[slapshot_oi]

In any group of friends, there's going to be that one kid everyone sh*ts on, and it sounds like you're that kid. You're in good company, 'cause so was I.

It's not a bad thing, and fact I used it to my advantage, just like you're doing, in that I could make new friends easily. No one wants that job, so the one who has it and can take it is respected and well-received in just about any crowd, but not every crowd. This seems backwards, but it's the truth.

You seemed to have taken it well and have now reached your breaking point. So, to answer your question, forgive and forget, but don't tolerate their BS. Tell them to piss off, and ignore them for a while so they know you mean business. There's a chance they'll come around or they'll find someone else to fill your shoes, and then that person will get fed-up and the cycle will continue. If that's the case, these people are really no good, but you'll find that out in due time.

On a similar note, I read an interesting aphorism the other day: "You don't have to change friends if you understand that friends change".

[Shaydie]

You should talk to them nicely, and tell them you apologize for not telling them what was going on, you should have been honest. Then let them know that they have been hurting your feeling s and you would appreciate it if they would stop. If they don't, then you have your answer about whether they are the type of people you want to be friends with.
I tease my friends(and my Kids) sometimes, but if they asked me to stop I certainly would.

[hallie78]

They were begging me to forgive them so I finally did. We've been getting along, but will it happen again? They've been my best friends for 2 years and this had never happened before!

[Homegirl 50]

Know one can tell you if it will happen again, if it does, leave them alone. It's not worth it.