[afuhrman]

My fiancé has a daughter with a girl in another state. She has notified him that she no longer wants the kid and he needs to come get her. She said she wants nothing to do with the child. The child is almost 2. We are picking up the child on Sunday and wanted to know if there was any kind of form or something we could type up and get her to sign since she wants no rights. We are afraid she will come back later down the road and try to take her back. We just need advice on how to handle this.

[JudyKayTee]

She can't legally relinquish her rights. You need to pick up the child (please, don't refer to her as the "kid." The Court finds the term offensive, at least in my area) and then apply TO THE COURT for custody.

Keep anything you have from her indicating that she is abandoning the child.

[tickle]

I am afraid it isn't that simple. If she doesn't want her child any longer and wants the birth father (is he for sure the birth father on the birth certificate?) she has to sign over her rights to the child legally. That is, you have to get a lawyer in family law to assist you. You are right, if it isn't done legally then somewhere down the road, she may come back and want the child again.

I don't know what kind of woman would just want to get rid of her own child. She can't be trusted.

Tick

[afuhrman]

I don't get how a mother could not want their child either. From what I understand she is young and wants to live a lifestyle that a child just doesn't fit into. He is the birth father and on the certificate. He does plan on getting legal custody at some point we just heard its pretty expensive and honestly don't know how to even go about it. Both him and I just want what's best for the child. I just fear that someday she'll have a change of heart and come take the child away after we have provided and taken care of her. Thank you for responding.

[JudyKayTee]

You should be able to handle this without an Attorney.

Let us know what happens.

(And, yes, she'll probably change her mind - "they" all do.)