[chelbo1239]

Can anyone help?

The problem is, he hasn't touched me for over a year.
He never initiates sex, and is always tired.
I go to bed at 8pm every night with him, just so we have time to do things. But within minutes of getting upstairs, he's asleep.
When we finally do it, he never wants forplay, like he just wants to get it over with. Now it's starting to feel like a chore.

We used to regularly engaged in sexual contact, even 2 weeks after our daughter was born.

I've tried talking to him about it and he said I'm making too big of a deal out of it. Now I don't know what I am supposed to do! :confused:

[Synnen]

First--having sex 2 weeks after your daughter was born was pretty... well, I won't say stupid, but it's definitely dangerous. There's very good medical reason not to have sex for 6 weeks after the birth of a child. Did your doctor clear you for that?

Second--how old is your daughter? I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that she's just around a year old.

Third--what the HELL is a 27 year old doing with a 16 year old?

Fourth--no... I'm still stuck on the near pedophilia here. Seriously--what the hell was he thinking?

Fifth--is his job more stressful? What about household stuff--more stress there? Economics looking harder for you after the baby? Stress is a HUGE libido killer.

[Allie602]

This is what happens to some men they age. You need to think if you want to spend the rest of your youth in a relationship like this when you can have so much more. You will eventually regret wasting your youth on him so think carefully about what you want for the rest of your life. You are young enough to find someone younger and more capable of satisfying and keep up with you.

[Homegirl 50]

31 is not old for a man so I doubt that he has slowed down.
I can't get past the fact that he has been with you since you were 16 and he 27.
Maybe has has found a younger piece.

For him to tell you that you are making a big deal out of this is pure BS.
If your man does not touch you in a year it is a big deal and he ought to be explaining why or at least trying to find out what his problem is (if he does not already know)

[Kitkat22]

As Synnen very wisely said. Stress
May be the factor. You married a much older man, that should be an indication that even at 31 men have sexual problems sometimes.

He may prefer someone even younger than 20. I think it's probably just something that will work itself out. Ask him outright
If there is someone else or if he is in need of medical help.