[Nina Rodriguez]

Me and my baby father broke up cause he didn't want to take responsibility. He was always drinking I was the only one working in my house to support him and my daughter but I really felt unappreciated he would never spend time with me always wanted to be with his friends and always had a lot of people in the house we never had our privacy. I got tired of it after 2yrs and a half and I really don't want to be with him unless he really changes.

[sully123]

Doesn't sound like he is going to change anytime soon. Sounds like he needs a lot of growing up. But drinking is his priority, not kids. I honestly, would think about my child and not him. He is not responsible enough. You don't need a man to survive. Your on the right track, working, but don't support him, kick his butt out.

[Cat1864]

He has to figure out for himself what he lost.

Is he involved in his daughter's life? He should be. If you haven't already, you need to go through the legal system to get child support and visitation (as well as the other things a child needs) set.

He may or may not be working now, but you need an order in place for when he is. If he refuses to see his child, send him monthly letters with pictures of her and updates on her growing up.

Don't allow bitterness at him to color how you tell her about her father when she gets old enough to ask.

[ISneezeFunny]

I honestly don't think a letter telling him what he's missing will work. If he doesn't see it himself, especially when he was living with you, I doubt he'll see it through a letter.

[Shadowburn]

Don't waste your time writing letters to him, he won't "get" it. To chase a guy to tell him how much he should miss you in his life is counterproductive to the process of getting rid of him because he is useless - or you won't be breaking up with him after 2.5 years and having a child together. Concentrate on bettering your life for you and for the baby, file for child support and forget about him. Karma will bite him in the butt in due time, don't worry.

Best of luck!

[kutocer]

Leave him it will be the best for both of you. If he is to know what he has lost he has to lose it.

Give yourself a break, see if he will change.

If he starts to change then give it 2 months to see the changes. Then another 2 months to be sure and then another 2 months to be certain, if he wants his family then he will do his best to get them back and that will mean changing.

If you see no changes at all then finish it as it will show you that he really doesn't care and isn't prepared to change.

Stay strong you need to for the welfare of your daughter and make that your number 1 prioity. You don't need a man to make you happy you need you to make you happy

[talaniman]

Write the letter burn it, and seek happiness, and security for your daughter, like you both deserve.