[jamiper2010]

I tried to be single my last half of senior year because I wanted to avoid something like this from happening. Yet I gave in and ended up having an awesome three month relationship with a girl two years younger than me. I mean awesome in that it was something where we were together almost every day and never got sick of each other. At the same time college is right around the corner. With that, I tried to think logically- I was going to be spending more time with girls over the course of 4 years + than I have spend in a relationship with her. And I wanted to be able to concentrate on my studies, social life, etc without having to feel like I was obligated to someone else, I want college to be an experience that molds me, not me and someone else. I talked to my girlfriend about this and she handled it very maturely, yet she was heartbroken. As was I. Severely heartbroken. In fact, I didn't last 24 hours. I called her yesterday saying that I couldn't do it, that I can't not be with her. She was really happy to say the least. And I am too, as of now. But now I can't help but think I just added more future heartbreak to this whole situation. I guess the real question is if I should think logically about what I should do that is the best for both of us, or do what feels right in the "now" and try to hold on to something that I have no idea what will feel like when I enter a life changing experience such as college? Any advice, tips, or other factors I should think about would be welcome.

[positiveparent]

If you really feel you do not want to be in a relationship then its only right to let your g/f know this.

However relationships can survive when one is at college, if its what you both want then you will be able to work through it.

It would seem from your post that you aren't sure either way.

Why not keep your relationship going and if after a few weeks or months of college you still feel you cannot sustain it fully then talk to your g/f.

However if its not what you really want then its better to end it now than to prolong the inevitable..

You need to do what's right for YOU...

[talaniman]

I think you make a decision based on the facts and stick to it. Own it as your own. I don't think its fair at all to make her a victim of your indecision.