[Johny5]

I've been going out with the girl of my dreams for over a year now and things have been good I'd say but she's now moving to the UK and I'm in the usa so about 1 month ago we got in a argument. After she said she didn't feel right about us and that she wanted a break to think about how she felt, she basically said she didn't know if she loved me in a significant other way which was a huge blow to me, confused by this since it Came Out Of No Where, specifically previous days everything was fine she said she loved me, plenty of flirting, then that day all of a sudden she didn't know how she felt...
So after a heartfelt talk I agreed to give her a break.Well the next day she came on skype and started talking to me, I was like uhhh?? I thought you wanted a break her response: " i did but now i don't i know what i want"
she felt that all the stress of her and her family getting ready to move on a flip of a switch made her feel that way.
Sooo after that things were a little weird but soon went back to normal.
Now a month later, we had a little argument and then the next few days she was sort of not her self she said she was still a little mad at me, but hey nothing that can't be worked out right?
Cause like uhh that's what I thought, turned out I was dead wrong cause I got a slap in the face from déjà vu...
I had asked her if I could be her *-petname-* she was like rrwrrabofam s or how ever you spell a mumble and so I'm like, "..........whats wrong" can't I be your *-petname-* she was like I don't know so I asked if she loved me "i don't know"
sooo its like?? -in my head of course-
turns out she again doesn't feel right about us and again wants a break so I'm again devastated and wanting to die while she's needing to figure things out and so now I have to wait until she has a answer which can take however long these things take which is??
so for me being impatient like I am this to me is slooow painful torture.
Oh and by the way this happened today which is 1 to two days before she actually moves with her family, and for some reason this time she seemed that it wasn't as hard fore her as the other time which is making me so Worried.
I don't know if it's the same problem with the stress of moving which is from what I heard in the top 10 or 5 most stressful things? I don't know if that's it or if I'm just trying to lie to myself.
Im soooo confused and Worrrried she says I'm a good guy and stuff like that but then its like but I don't know if I want to be with you.
how can someone change their feelings in a day? I don't know what to do or what this means, I don't want to lose her and she knows I'm willing to do anything and everything it takes to work things out, but she "can't help the way " she "feels."
this time she was serious about the break she didn't even want to finish talking
the other time we did until she want to bed. She says its hard for her cause I'm such a "good guy"etc. but to me its like if I'm so good why don't you know if you want to be with me. I just can't take it. I'll do anything not to lose her even by giving her the break that she wants, but it's hard cause its just to determine what she wants and if she loves me in that special way. =[
I need advice please!
why is she feeling this way?
what can I do?
what happens if she doesn't want to be with me? I can't live without her =\
:btw we talk just about everyday
my eyes hurt from trying not to cry...

[talaniman]

Give her what she asked for. For now that's all you can do, but living in different countries, have you ever met in person, or was this entirely an electronic relationship? How old are you both?

Sometimes we lose people when we don't want to, that's just a reality of life. But while you give her the break she asked for that doesn't mean sit and wait for her to change her mind. That's when you start doing your thing, and enjoy your life without her.

It may be rough at first, but its important to leave her alone and wrestle with her own issues without your influence.

[ruggles1127]

To me it sounds like she is thinking about what is going to happen and who she is going to meet when she moves to the UK.

In all reality I can see both sides of it.

She is moving out of the counrty.. which, helllo.. is a totally different counrty, with totally different people, and experiences, and you never know what is going to happen.

And you, love her and want to keep her..


Something my dad told me, let her go.
You don't need to waste your time sitting around sulking, when in the end, she will probably meet someone else anyway, she is going to be across the ocean.. which makes it easy to cheat..


Find someone close to home.
Long distance is hard on the heart and the mind

[positiveparent]

If she's moving to the UK then it's a sure fire bet you've lost her anyway, she's going to be miss popularity 2010, that's how it is over here, for some reason, if an American family move over here they're treated like royalty, at least to begin with so she will have young men lining up at her door to ask her out.

Its also a very long way to go for you and she to see each other again, and I think she's realised this and is trying to end it with you now.

What kind of relationship would you be able to have with over 1,000 miles between you.

Shell be gone for good soon, so you may as well start getting on with your life. Because she is going to be getting on with hers in a new country. Over 1,000 miles away from you...

She is moving away and the relationship is over no matter how you look at it, she's realised this, and now you need to do the same. Its not like you can hop on a bus to go see her.

[xxtatar22xx]

as I read the story she don't want to hurt you but then she is confused because she might not beable to do a longdistance wich isn't tru I actually met my wife over long distance before we just flew to see each other I lived in philadephia she lived in Florida and things happen but this isn't about me.. but like I said as I read your story it feels that she is more scared of losing you and moving all together brings pressure on her because she probably feels that she don't want to lose you but she don't want to lose her family over it neither would I it's a tough situation but it basically comes down to this would you want to lose your family over a girlfriend... I mean I know its hard to accept but in the long run it's the right thing to do... is to help her and be there for her you could always chat on a program or even text or call or e-mail stay in touch and you never know hwhat could happen you could up end moving there or she could end up moving back but like I said she is just probably confused and just don't want to hurt you or her family wich is a really rough decision to make but one has to be made there isn't a choice there and acourse when she moves there its going to be rough for her also so you got to just try to stay in touch with her and you never know what could happen I mean if nothing happens then oh well at least your showing her that you love her by staying in touch with her I see kids all the time saying "i love you" but do they really mean it... if they really mean it they would be there no matter what the situation was or what happen they stay there for them .but in the long run I understand your part where she keeps messing with your head but then I understand her part where she is coming from so it kind of = up to this... if you think about it because look at it this way "she messes with your head because she don't want to hurt/lose you but then she knows she doesn't have a choice+you got her thinking about her life and family moving to the UK= where does that put her I mean either way she is moving... but alls I'm saying is you can be there for her show her you really do love her .if you do.