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    jorvic Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 7, 2010, 10:09 AM
    My 19 year old son treats my husband, daughter and I terribly - care about no one.
    My son was a wonderful child, until 12. I feel like that child died and this person took over his body.

    He moved out at 17, after graduation. For two years he attended college in another state and life was good. He called regularly and was kind when we would visit him or he came home for Christmas. I thought I had my son back.

    He moved home this year and it is a rerun.He is only kind to us when he wants something. He is in college (when he goes), has no job, addicted to video games, rarely helps around the house, and only participates in family events grudingly - complaining the entire time.

    What can I do? I am at the point that I can barely stand him and would not associate with him if I were not related to him?

    I don't understand we have always been a loving family - he is like the square peg and it is noticed by our extended family.
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    JudyKayTee Posts: 46,503, Reputation: 4600
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    Jul 7, 2010, 10:36 AM

    Are you enabling him by putting up with his - for lack of a better word - nonsense? If he had to support himself or he wouldn't eat, perhaps he'd clean up/straighten out.

    Did he get a two year degree, drop out of College, something else?

    Has a Physician ruled out any physical or mental problems?

    Maybe the time has time to tell him to fish or cut bait - and I know it's a difficult thing to do.

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