[ohmmm]

So I recently met a dude who is 5 years older, he's cool and all. We talk a lot, he knows that I'm taken and he and his girl are having problems. The other day when we hung out my my other friend, who is a girl. I noticed that he kept staring at me, well it's like more of the feeling where you know that someone is staring at you. He laughs at everything I say, even though I don't think it's funny. He smiles at me a lot, and apparently stares at me a lot too, why?

[Kitkat22]

Are you male or female?

[ohmmm]

Female

[Kitkat22]

female

Maybe he has a crush on you.

[redhed35]

Could I ask what age you are?

If your 15/16 his intentions may not be good,you have a boyfriend,your taken. Leave it at that.

[ezraa]

If your under 18 then... icky!
If your under 25 then I think he's stares are so Not charming. You don't seem to interested in him-I'd lose him quick. His girlfriend is looking for any excuse to dump him and you don't want to be it. He's just way too complicated!

[ohmmm]

I'm 16

[redhed35]

He's 21,he has no business making goo goo eyes at you,he has nothing in common with your age group.

Ignore him,if he comes near you,tell him to back off,don't be on your own with him.

[ohmmm]

Well he's just a friend and I kind of have to spend time with him because he's in my band and all. He's innocent and all, I just don't get why he's looking at me all the time and not my friend

[redhed35]

A 21 year old is not friends with a 16 year old,your in the same band,if his intentions are honorable,and he just wants to help improve the band,that's different.

If he is staring at you,and making you feel uncomforable,that's a different matter.

If he is being inappropriate,you can't ignore it.

[ohmmm]

I wouldn't really say it's uncomfortable, just awkward. Because he has a girlfriend, their kind of on a break, and he was feeling sad so I told him that people realize their mistakes while on break and make things better later on. I'm not sure if he took it the wrong way. Because I was saying that to make him feel better but if he thinks that I'm hinting him to hook up with me I don't know what to say

[redhed35]

If he talks to you again about the matter,be clear that you are not interested in ANY sort of relationship with him.

I can undersatnd that the band is important to you,and its great to have an interest,however,maybe a band meeting is called for and a suggestion that no romantic relationships take place within the band,too avoid any problems.

If there is another band member there that you trust,that is in his age group,perhaps he/she could have a word with him.

The fact that your asking this question,makes me question if your mature enough to handle this kind of situation,its not a bad reflection on you,only that he has much more experience then you.

[ohmmm]

Normally when a much older dude hits on me I ask my friends for help. Problem is my friend barely knows this dude, and I'm the one who talks to everybody not just about band but other everyday things, just to not make things awkward and such, right now there's only 3 of us, there used to be another dude about his age but he left, can't really blame him. But I don't think he has the courage to tell me anyway so maybe I'll be fine until then?

[redhed35]

If you are worried about it,tell an adult you trust,again,don't be on your own with him,and stay safe.

One other point,don't forget he has much more experience than you,he is going to know what to say,and do for you to trust him,and perhaps fall for him,you may be smart,but he will know how to get around that,I'm not saying he is a bad guy,just that from reading your posts,I would be remiss to advice anything but caution.

[ohmmm]

Well all right I'll be careful thanks :]

[mrshodges]

I would say talk to him about it. Not completely alone make sure someone is near but not to close because this could be embarrising to one or both of you. Anything but a 16-17 yo for a 16 yo is bad news. If he has a girlfriend and is still interested in you, that doesn't say good things for him anyway.