[djl1969]

Hello.. Here it is. My girlfriend works 7 days on 7 days off from 7pm to 7 am (yuck) she has her 2 kids on the week she is off.. and is doing an online school program. Almost always sleepy. We have not dated long (2 months) we both really like each other. But twice now she ignored a call and a text then didn't make contact for 3-5 days... each time I gave in. She claimed she gets overwhelmed with everything sometimes.. I know her scedul is busy.. mine too.. but it seems shadey and rude.. why would you not want to talk with a person that you care for and cares for you? Help ( Im confronting her soon)

[I wish]

A better question would by, why are you sticking around in this relationship? Her schedule probably won't change anytime soon. She has the added responsibility of taking care of her children when she gets off work and she has to study whenever she has free time.

You're going to have to be extremely patient with her if you want things to work out. She might be a nice person, but she's obviously not compatible with you. You're obviously looking for someone who is more available. If she can't give the attention that you want in a relationship, then find someone else who will.

[Devorameira]

You come across as a little impatient and demanding.

If you think a woman who works, takes classes, and has kids should be available anytime you want to call or text, then I think you're wrong.

If you can't be patient, then it's probably time for you to move on and find a single girl with no kids who has plenty of time on her hands.

[talaniman]

Confront her about what, not being available? Naw, stop calling her, and let her call you.

If you can't understand busy, she is not the girl for you, but its not her fault.

After 2 months, its you who is rude to think she should drop what she is doing, or change her routine to accommodate some guy who she has dated for two lousy months.

That unreasonable and if you can't hang, quit! But don't whine about it. Maybe you need more to do with your time.

[jmjoseph]

How many children do YOU have?

She has two, and THEY are the most important thing in her life.

If this relationship is one you'd like to keep, then you better realize that YOU are second right now.

I wouldn't "confront" her, or even bring it up.

Ask her what YOU can do to lighten HER load.

That's what a GOOD boyfriend would do.

"Shady and rude". HAH! It's called parenthood dude.

[Torrid13]

You're lucky she even has considered taking time to actually date you, considering how busy she is!

I can understand where your frustration would come from: you really like her, she really likes you, but you don't see her much, & it makes you feel neglected.

Imagine how she feels about it!

I have to agree with the others when they say that maybe you should ask what you can do to help her out. It's easy to get wrapped up in our own feelings, but I bet if you ask her what you can do, she'll respect you more & certainly like you more!

You knew when you started dating it would be hard. You've got to make up your mind that you're going to be with her through the hard times, not just the good times, if you really want this to work.

So... are you?
The decision is yours.