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bsbprojects · May 15, 2010, 06:34 AM

I'm sitting with what I consider to be a tuff situation & decision in my mind but here goes:
My ex only allows me to visit, drive or go anywhere with my daughter without her presence because I have epilepsy even though it's been under perfect control whereby I've had only 2 fits in 6 years, she refuses to accept my neurologists letter of approval. All I'm mostly doing, or rather my ex, is constantly phoning me for money for all medical bills, school clothes, fees, aftercare... etc. I'm not even responsible for half of these bills, I haven't missed a single month of maintenance or any other, been unemployed 7 months now but she refuses to accept that as an excuse for reduction of maintenance. I'm 40 years old, quite sincerely, I've come to a point where I feel that I shouldn't even be a parent any longer, all I am is money supplier with very, very limited benefits regarding my daughter & this has been going on now just over 6 years now. I REALLY FEEL THAT I WANT TO GIVE MY VOLUNTARY RIGHT TO BE A FATHER ANY LONGER. Any suggestions as to what steps I should follow next?

excon · May 15, 2010, 07:02 AM

Originally Posted by bsbprojects

Any suggestions as to what steps I should follow next?

Hello b:

Your post would get a LOT more action if you didn't piggyback onto somebody else's OLD post. Maybe somebody will be along to move it...

Sure, I have a suggestion... Instead of lying down for your ex, and giving up your rights to your child, why don't you grow a pair, and FIGHT to enforce the parental RIGHTS you already have?

I would NEVER, EVER, EVER, give up my children. NEVER! But, that's just me.

excon

ScottGem · May 15, 2010, 07:36 AM

First its not a good idea to piggyback your question on someone else's. This can lead to confusion. You should start a new thread. So I've moved your question to its own thread.

Second, if you looked at the sticky notes at the top of this forum, there is an answer to your question about giving up your rights. Short answer, you can't.

Third, your ex doesn't have to accept a reduction unless the court orders it. But if your circumstances have changed, then you go back to the court for a modification. Then she has no choice but to accept.

As for visitation, this is also a court issue. If your neurologist gives you a clean bill of health, then you make sure that there is no supervision requirement on visitation. If she still refuses, then you have her cited for contempt of court.