[Walla12]

Hi Everyone,

I started meeting a guy for a week or two and got on well, we decided to be friends just texting each other and watching films and going to the cinema which was nice, and meet up out once or twice which was nice. He told me the first time that I meet him that he was with a girl for 3 years and it broke up and he hasn't been with anyone since, anyway one night after a night out he says out of know where, "must really like you" I said nothing as he was drunk. Anyway, recently I found I cannot be just his friend as I have feeling for him and recently he was saying we were friends and I told him that I cannot be his friend as I like him and that he was a nice guy he didn't say anything but I brought up that I know the signs that he is still hurt over his ex and his eyes got watery so I comforted him, so I went to go and get a taxi but he wouldn't let me go on my own he said just in case something happened to me, so he got a taxi and got me to get in and when I got to my house, I went to pay and he paid for me which I didn't expected and he said night to me.

He text me the next morning saying, "he was in funny place at the moment and that he wasnt deleting my number cause he liked me, and if i didnt was to stay in touch that he would see me out. I said "it wasn't easy for me that I couldn't be just friends and that I need to move on and for him to take care". He said "thanks who knows we might meet again if we do I might be in a better position to give you a chance to let us know each other better xx" I told him that "we should go our own way and not expected anything", I said this because being friends is too easy and that if he had feelings for me then he will try his best to work things out again.

What advice could you give me about what he is saying and am I doing the right thing?

[I wish]

Now he knows how you feel, so the ball is on his side of the court.

It's clear that he's not over his ex yet and he has enough respect to not lead you on after you confessed your feelings

Unfortunately, the best thing to do is to back away and go do your own thing. You've done your part. Now that he knows how you feel, if he wanted something to happen, he will find you.

Sounds like this isn't the first time you've been in this situation:

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https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...me-403859.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...er-355622.html

You got to let things flow naturally.

[Jake2008]

I think you handled that with grace and dignity. I also applaud this man for his insight and consideration toward you.

You absolutely did the right thing, not a doubt in my mind. You could have hung on and settled for 'part' of him, and always remained just a friend, after investing a good chunk of your life hoping his feelings would change toward you.

You have also given him the gift of understanding and compassion. Clearly he is not over his ex, and you have maturely given him what he needs- time.

I wish more people were like you two.

[Walla12]

Thanks for your answers, has anyone else got anymore advice of me please?