[jwec]

Hi, I like this girl a lot and she has a boyfriend. Im a junior in High School and I've known this girl since the 5th grade. I met her in dance class and took classes with her for a few years. I then quit dance to try other things 3 years ago and now I came back to dancing and I saw her again 3 years later. Im very good at jumping and turning in dancing which she enjoys and I also put her in my movie that I'm making. She thinks my movie is really cool and she loves being in it. Im also doing a trio dance with her and her friend so I get to see her twice a week. But she has a good looking, strong, football player-looking boyfriend who reminds me of Leonardo Dicaprio. And he kept flirting with her through Facebook and suddenly I guess that one little flirt comment he made on her Facebook picture made them go out. And I've known this girl longer than he has. Sometimes she would flirt with me saying nice things about my shoes, shirt etc. Sometimes I think she only looks at me as a friend. But since the first day I saw her which was 6 years ago, I still care for her and wold NEVER let anything bad to happen to her.

[talaniman]

Give it up already, you did a lot for a friend, but romance, well she has that covered.

[amicon]

She has a boyfriend-time to move on.

[Larken85]

Uh yeah, sorry man. I really hate to say this because I enjoy the arts and all that too but she is looking for a big strong man and you... you're a dancer... Not the most attractive activity. Its like being the captain of the chess team, it may be fun but you're not going to score any points with the prom queen you know what I mean. And fyi if I know high school football guys, if you ask his girl out, he'll probably kick your prancing butt.
Sorry to be blunt, but find someone who may be a little more accepting of the fact that you are not a football guy.

[Romefalls19]

Friends zone, that's all you are to her, is a friend. She wanted an athletic guy and she found him. It's best to move on.

[jwec]

Ok guys, I have something going on. Ok there is this girl I met at my dance class back in September. We really didn't talk much for a few months. Then I got a text from my cousin who is really good friends with her. And she told me that she loves me and that I turn and jump really good in dance class. (Which is true lol) Anyway after, again I didn't really pay much attention to her. Then a week ago I asked this girl if she wanted to sing in my movie because she is a very incredible singing voice! I asked her for her phone # and she gave it to me. I texted her a few days ago but she didn't text back. Then at dance rehearsal she said "Hi" to me like she wanted me to notice her and kind of smiled a lot at me. Also I'm planning on going to a pool party in the beginning of July and she asked if I was going. I said yes and she looked excited about me going! Then I texted my cousin saying if this girl liked me. My cousin told me she really didn't talks much about me so I'm not sure if she is secretly keeping it a secret or what. It feels like this love connection is going up and down. I seriously need help from you guys! If I know she did like me, I would have the courage to ask her out. What do you think? :confused:

[liz28]

Why don't you just ask this girl straight out if she likes you instead of involving a third party.

Also, maybe this girl might be like me and hates texting. You already have her number so give her a call instaed.

The thing that bother me the most is when you wrote "she loves you?"" I am confused to the max. May I please know the two of you ages.

[jwec]

"She loves you" I was thinking she loves my turnings and jumps in dance class. I am 17 and she is 16, junior and sophomore.

[talaniman]

Dude if you have an interest in her, talk to her. Then you won't have to assume or guess at what she likes or not because you can find out for yourself. Being in the same class should make that easier.

[Jake2008]

Oh the games people play.

First of all, you don't need a mediator, or a referee to interpret the moves and counter moves, so ditch the advice from your middle man cousin.

If you can do spins and jumps that she notices, and she can sing so well that you want her to be in your movie, surely you can say, "Hey, feel like getting a coffee after rehersal?"

Don't overthink it.

Keep it simple. She may be very shy, and can't read your mind. That happens sometimes. Just kiddin' you here, but you get my point.

It is far harder to attempt to interpret third party information on a girl that you think may or may not like you, and go through all that angst, than to just up and ask her out for a coffee. The most you have to lose is a couple of bucks.

[jwec]

Hahaha I'm actually a junior in high school and she is a sophomore. Also my cousin is a girl and one of her best friends lol. But thanks for the advice!

[Jake2008]

I'm counting on you to make some progress! :)

[jwec]

Hey guys here is the deal. There is this girl that I've known since we were 3 years old. We met in dance class when were very little. She was my best friend in my childhood years. I use to go to her house, swim in her pool and go to her little brother's birthday parties all the time. Now 10 years later I finally found her on Facebook and we have been messaging back and forth non stop! She also knows I love filmmaking and she really supports me in my films. But now I'm finally going to see her again 10 years later! Im super excited and a little nervous too. And I'm staring to have STRONG feelings for her now. It's also my senior year this year and I really want to ask her to my prom. Plus we go to different schools. But I really want to ask her out! I really need a professional's help on this! Please what should I do?? What should I do when I see her again?? Should I wait a few months after we start hanging out to tell her I have feelings for her?

[positiveparent]

I suggest you come back down to earth, sit down count to ten, and take things nice and slow, you haven't seen her for ten years, you don't even know if you'll like each other when you do meet up again, so thoughts of asking her to your prom put on the back burner. Take your time..

[ISneezeFunny]

Like positiveparent said, you know nothing about this girl except what's she told you via fbook. Calm yourself down. Relax. Take it slow.

[jwec]

But when we do get to know more about each other. How do I know when the time is right to ask her?

[ISneezeFunny]

Possibly around the time that you realize she has no boyfriend, and that she is also into you.

[jmjoseph]

You'll know. Just breathe.

If she's into YOU, then you'll get the vibe. Don't seem so over-anxious.

These are some of the best years of your life. Be cool about it.

Good luck.

[Lucky098]

I agree with everyone!

If you want this girl to like you, don't bombard her with asking her out to the Prom and confess your undying love for her. She'll be running for the hills instead of wanting to get to know you better.

Take it slowly. Step by step.. baby steps even! Things have a tendency to work the way you want them to if you don't jump the gun.

[positiveparent]

Why don't you wait until you meet her then decide what to do or where to go from there, a persons online persona can often be misleading, no offence but until you meet her you've no real idea if you will actually like her or not, she may pick her nose in public or be covered in zits ( spots) you'd feel a right fool asking her to the prom now only too find she's a cyclopse or something when you meet, Joke but just trying to get you on the tour here. Plus if you're rushing this now how's the poor girl going to feel if you're as full on once you meet, you're going to end this before it starts, take it slow, or live to rue the day.