[unsurewhat2do]

My husband has always been such a sweet, caring man. I always am bragging on how laid back and sweet he is with me and our two children. The past couple of years however, he has less patience with the children. I often have to remind him to step back and think about how his tone sounds, not only with the children but with me. It seems like this impatient, non-sweet side is coming out more and more. He's taking our children to his parents this weekend(I have some other obligations this weekend) and we had an argument this morning over something silly, that esculated and he said, "I can't wait to go this weekend so I can be away from you". He has NEVER said anything close to that mean to me. EVER! I started crying and went to take a shower. He left for work without a word. I am still in shock that my husband would say this. He hasn't called me all day but did e-mail to ask me to pack the kids' stuff and to tell me anytime I was ready to call and apologize, he'd be there. He put a smiley face on the e-mail. I know he thinks it's no big deal but I don't think he's ever hurt me this bad. I don't know what to do. I feel like "Who is this man?"

[tickle]

A heart to heart discussion is in order. Obviiously issues need to be out in the open and he isn't doing that. By the way, you don't have to apologize, he does.

Tick

[Devorameira]

There's really no excuse for his hateful attitude, but it's really hard to say where it's coming from.

Is his job stressful enough that it may be carrying over to home?

Does he suffer from anxiety or depression?

Is there any possibility that he has a girlfirend?

[unsurewhat2do]

Thanks for the responses. I know we'll end up talking about it but I don't know how to really get across how much he hurt me. I don't think he believes me when I say he is changing. His job is stressful but no different than before. He's already come home, got the children and left for the weekend. He asked me if I had anything I wanted to say before they left. I said "Have a good weekend" and he said "Fine - if that's the way you want to leave it"
Who is this man?
No girlfriend, no depression. His father is impatient, opionated - basically a jerk. We have ALWAYS talked about how different my husband is from his father. I pray he is not headed in that direction. I feel like he can not see the way he is changing.

[Devorameira]

When there is a sudden, noticeable change in how a person behaves, that's pretty ominous. That usually doesn't happen unless there is something going wrong.

If there isn’t a girlfriend or depression, then I think he needs a thorough medical checkup. If at all possible, go along to make sure that the doctor knows of the personality changes. There are MANY medical conditions that could cause the change... some as simple as a vitamin deficiency, some as serious as a brain tumor.

Has his personality change only been directed at you or is it also affecting others?