[monted]

I have been in a relationship with my Fiancé for 6 years our anniversary is Feb 14, day after valentines, he woke up in the morning and noticed he hasn't try to wake me up to go to work, when he says bye and see you after work I have noticed something wrong, I have asked and he said he can't marry me, and he doesn't know if he loves me anymore. My world just suddenly change, it seems that the world turn its back on me, I was shocked and hurt, no one to talk to, once I have contacted my friends they were supportive but my parents are not. Of all the people I expecting to be with me on this situation are my parents. My Fiancé been texting me during his break, and saying "Sorry it pains me to do this as I do care for you, Its just I am realising I am not ready to settle down, I need to mature a bit more and become more independent, i need to look after my self and not rely on you always, I need to discover who I am and learn some responsibility, give me time please I know it will be hard and I am not promising anything just give me time."

Did I done something wrong why he done this to me? 2 day back he loves me but I just can't accept the reason he had, if he wants to change he should have change and be responsible in front of me, not to leave me like this; he went back to his parents house after work he said he want to spend a couple of day to his parents and we will see what happens from there. I am more confused and scare what will happen by then.

I love him very much, but I don't know what to do, I'm having a mixed emotions right now I feel angry and lonely and hurt at the same time. Is there anyone could give me advice. Please

[amicon]

I'm sorry for your pain and for the fact that your parents aren't supportive-do you know why they are not?

For some reason,his feelings changed and all you can do is accept this and try to move on with your life.

You're in shock right now,but I suggest you go no contact with him.
No calls,texts or other communication.
No responding to his either.

Please read the stickies at the top of the relationship for more advice on how to handle a breakup.
Take care.

[Devorameira]

Sorry about your breakup and having no emotional support from your family.

It sounds to me like your fiancé is in a classic case of wanting things both ways: He wants to keep you hanging on as an option while he explores other things. He isn’t sharing his life with you. He isn’t talking to you about what’s important. He is making all the decisions about your relationship and leaving you to react to them. He isn’t being at all fair to you.

My opinion? Put his stuff in boxes and tell him to pick it up. It makes you too sad. Start going out with friends and meeting other men. If he wants to see you, only do it if he is willing to talk honestly about what is going on with him and what he thinks about your future together. If he can’t be a partner in working things through now, he certainly isn’t a good bet for a long time marriage. As hard as it is, I think it is better to face that and move on.

[talaniman]

I know your in shock right now, and maybe not able to understand things, so for now I think it best to just give you a >cyber hug<, for support and let you know we are with you, if you want to rant, or vent.

[nvrbrkn]

I am sorry that you are going through this. You need to cut all contact and stop letting him lead you on. He is saying things to make himself feel less guilty about what he has done. Please don't fall for it and give yourself a chance to start the healing process and be strong and keep no contact. I know it is hard to understand what has happened and there are many answered questions you have at the moment but with time you will have your answers. The shock stage is like a bomd going off in your mind, debris everywhere we are here to help you settle that debris.