[bogachan]

My girlfriend, whom I used to live together for a year and have the relationship for 1.5 years,left me.. I was bad to her ,and cheated on her.but she knew that I had another girlfriend ,but anyway.. she moved out 3 weeks ago and she cut off all the connections with me.. how can I win her back?I realized all my mistakes and I changed.. how can I prove it to her?

[talaniman]

By leaving her alone, and being a better human being. Only over time will she see you have changed in actions, and not just words.

That may take you years though, and I doubt she wants to wait. It takes a long time before people get over being hurt, and treated like crap!

[amicon]

I very much doubt you can win her back-you cheated and she's not speaking to you.
Change for yourself and become a better person so that you don't make the same mistakes in your next relationship.

[redhed35]

I would suggest you take some time to consider your part in the breakup and learn from it,ask yourself why you cheated and treated her badly.

What is it about you,that you need to change.

[bogachan]

I have to change ,because she doesn't deserve such bad person as me:(I even begged her but she didn't accept,I cried she said she doesn't care,I bought her a present still nothing.. flower etc.. Nothing.. whatelse can I do?

[talaniman]

You have already said it, YOU MUST CHANGE, and it may be to late for her. But still you must change.

HINT- Flowers are an insult when you have cheated

Leave the girl alone, she already thinks you're a selfish uncaring basta-d. And your proving it by pestering her for whatever reason. That's why you leave her alone and accept that its over, so she can heal and overcome your abuse.

If you cannot see the hurt you have caused and be willing to let her recover in her time, NOT YOURS, then you are a very selfish uncaring basta-d. Nobody goes back to such a person.

[bogachan]

I must admit that,your message hurt me:(
But I love her from so deep inside of my heart.it wasn't a cheating,she knew it from the beginning and I did it because when we first met with her,she left me after sometime for her ex.. just to be with him for 15 days.so I am not 100% wrong

[redhed35]

Stop making excuses for your behaviour,take responsibility for your part in the breakup.

You can't make someone love you,want you,or forgive you.

The best you can do is make the changes in your life and not repeat the same mistakes again.

[bogachan]

This fact can make my life upside down.. I moved to this country 2 years ago,and 1.5 of this 2 years,she was with me.and now I feel so lonely.I haven't seen her for 10 days,everyday I am crying.everyday I am looking at her photos,she forgot her socks at my home while she was moving out,and thoose sock are the only thing she left:(im still keeping them.. I miss her so much and so badly:(I am so sorry

[redhed35]

Pity you didn't keep that in mind when you cheated on her,obviously something was not so great in the relationship.

If you read the stickies in the relationship thread,if gives great insights and helpful advice.

[bogachan]

But in the beginning I was super good and nice to her,she left me for to be with that guy for 2 weeks.. I couldn't get over it how she says she can get over my cheating.. isnt unfair?

[redhed35]

Hearts don't buy into business contracts,the heart does not see fair,hurt is hurt.

She is hurt and wants out of the relationship,no amount of begging or tears or promises will change that if she does not want you.

Start no contact and give yourself time to heal,take heed of the other advice given and learn from this experience.

[bogachan]

But don't you have guys any idea for me?I am 23 years old,can say that not so experienced guy.. I am crying everyday,in front of the PC,looking at her photos.. currently working in an american company in czech republic.trying my best to be busy wth the job but still when its weekend or after work,I am thinking of her every minute:(I wish I had never done thoose stupid things

[talaniman]

You'll get over it in time... we all do, and some of us even learn a thing or two from the experience, and become experienced!

This fact can make my life upside down.. I moved to this country 2 years ago,and 1.5 of this 2 years,she was with me.and now I feel so lonely.

Maybe its time to learn to get along without her there. Find your own happiness. She has.

[jaime90]

You cannot MAKE her come back. If you could, as you say "win her over" do you want to go through a relationship thinking that you just convinced her to date you as oppose to her willingly choosing?

Don't talk to her. Distract yourself. Learn from your mistakes. You will get over it in time. You must realize that all of your actions have consequences. Not only do you have to deal with a breakup, there's a good chance that you will be telling your future wife how you have cheating in your past. Your future spouse will also be affected by your decisions now. So, learn from your mistakes, and move onward and upward from here.

[bogachan]

OK I know,but I can not think about another girl.I just want her because I am so sure about myself that I will treat her like a princess.I ill make her so happy,that's why I want her back.I want to prove her that I changed.. but after that still she want to break up,I would say just OK...