[Pohojalaanen]

My husband travels a lot on business and every time he goes out of town he spends a lot of time with female co-workers either in a club, restaurant, dance floor, bar, hot tub, swimming pool etc. I found out after I saw pictures of him and other woman in a hot tub and in his room wearing bathrobes. I asked him to behave as a married man when he travels and not to do anything that would hurt me. He did not think he had done anything wrong and he just yelled at me and said I can't be that way. This week he managed to do so again. He is traveling our of the country. He told me he was going sightseeing with another woman from his company and I asked him please not go because it hurts me because of the history of his prior business trips. He said he knows it will hurt me but he will go anyway. Why does he continue to do things that he knows hurts me - his wife? What should I do? I don't know if I love him anymore like I used to... how can he love me and respect me if he continues his bachelor behavior on his 'business' trip. What should I do?

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Going on a business trip with women co-workers is suppose to be strickly professional. He drew the line going into a hot tub with them. I would be hurt too.

[Jake2008]

I think you should try to accept that he travels with women, enjoys his time off during the business trips, takes in the scenery in a different country, and is obviously well-liked and a friendly guy.

That does not translate into he's having an affair, or thinks less of you.

This is 2010! If he did the same things with male co-workers, you wouldn't think twice about it.