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    princess2010 Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 26, 2009, 11:04 AM
    Break Up
    My boyfriend of 3 years has just broke up with me, he said that he does not have any feelings for me and feels that he can't be in a relationship with me. He is 24 and I'm 22. He has never told me he loves but says he 'cares'. I feel so devastated because he was my first love and I feel that he has just took advantage of me for 3 years. But I do not understand him because he continues to phone me, wants me to go out places with him, buys me xmas gifts, supports me with my modelling career, wants to go on holiday in 2010 with me and than says that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me ever again but continues to treat me in a nice way as his gilrfriend. Im not sleeping with him to by the way anymore.

    Im so confused right now, I've tried no contact but I always give in.. I don't understand why he is doing this, should I just walk once and for good, I know there's a part of me that is still holding on to him but that's because he makes me believe that there could be something between us. Any good advice please... thank you xxx
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    Dec 26, 2009, 11:17 AM
    Don't put your life on hold for him-I'd say go no contact and stick to it. Your hurting now but you will most likely hurt for much longer if you wait around for him to change his mind.
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    Dec 26, 2009, 11:20 AM
    Yes, you should walk away once and for all. He's not willing to give you the relationship you desire.
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    Dec 26, 2009, 01:34 PM
    Stop giving in to him, and cut him from your life. Then you don't get caught up in false hope. He wants what he had, but without commitment, or responsibility to you. In case your wondering, he does this until something better comes along. Don't let him. Disappear from his life, by ignoring his efforts, to get what he wants from you.
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    Dec 26, 2009, 03:45 PM
    Break it off totally with absolutely no contact!

    In my opinion he’s saying that although he still likes you and may be atttracted to you that he doesn’t want to totally be with you. It means he’s 99% sure he doesn’t want to be with you instead of being 100%. He wants to keep you around as a back up plan, then if he doesn’t find someone he likes better he’ll think about coming back to you. If he finds a girl he likes better he can easily and without feeling guilty, let you go. He just wants to be sure that you'll be waiting with open arms for him if he doesn't find what he's looking for out there.

    RUN! You deserve better!

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    Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love, but rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person, how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along. - Unknown
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    Jan 2, 2010, 04:40 PM

    Thank You for all your comments. I have started No Contact, hope it works
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    Jan 2, 2010, 11:56 PM

    Do the NC for your own healing. Stay strong and stick to no contact.
    Take care.
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    Feb 7, 2010, 02:37 PM

    Hi I read your other post on NC how is that coming and how long now? Its been going on 8 weeks he has contacted me 3 times and I answered him 2 but I had the ball in my court on the last one where I thanked him for mailing my stuff back and he said your welcome, that was last wed.. its tough to do the nc but it does take away any false hopes
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