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sammie83 · Nov 10, 2006, 03:52 PM

I have been in a relationship for 7 years and have been trying for a ababy for over a ayear now.I have had no outcome.what should I do? Am I in fertile?

J_9 · Nov 10, 2006, 03:55 PM

Have you ever been on birth control? If so what kind and how long were you on it?

What is your age?

Have you had your PAP smear lately?

I am sorry for all of the questions, but there is a lot that I must know in order to help.

sammie83 · Nov 10, 2006, 04:00 PM

Hi, I have been on birth control but came off it because it messed about with my periods.I am 23 and love my boyfriend very much that I'm ready to carry his child.u may think I'm stupoid but I'm not sure what (pap )means.ive had my smear for cancer cells,that's it.im so worried.x

J_9 · Nov 10, 2006, 04:10 PM

Okay, that is the smear I am talking about. Good for you in taking care of your health!!

Now, I understand you love your boyfriend, but is he ready for all that a child entails? Do you totally and completely understand everything that comes with the responsibility of having a child?

You may be ready to carry his child, but is HE ready for the responsibility?

I ask these questions because carrying a baby comes with a lifetime of responsibility. Without marriage it is very easy for the man to walk away when the going gets tough.

Yes a marriage certificate is just a piece of paper, but it is harder and more expensive for him to walk away.

Just some food for serious thought.

Jnet29 · Nov 10, 2006, 07:06 PM

Hi, sometimes it takes a little longer to have a baby, the both of you have to be really relaxed you to can't be stressing over this. Make sure you keep track of your cycle and when you ovulate, and also make a preconception appointment with an obgyn and get started on prenantal vitamins so you can increase your hg hormones you will need this in order to have a baby. : ) net

J_9 · Nov 10, 2006, 07:23 PM

Net, yes, you are right in all you say. However, many doctors are quite reserved about helping someone conceive who is not married. It is a catch 22 situation. The doc wants to help people conceive, but if the couple is not married the doc may be reserved in helping create another child out of wedlock who most likely will grow up in a broken home.

I know divorce happens. But it is easier for the man to walk out if they couple is not married.

It is a moral dilemma that many doctors face these days.

Miranda · Nov 10, 2006, 08:30 PM

Originally Posted by Jnet29

hi, sometimes it takes a little longer to have a baby, the both of you have to be really relaxed you to can't be stressing over this. make sure you keep track of your cycle and when you ovulate, and also make a preconception appointment with an obgyn and get started on prenantal vitamins so you can increase your hg hormones you will need this in order to have a baby. : ) net

Just wondering what hg hormones are? Are you saying that the prenatal vitamins would increase chance of pregnancy?

J_9 · Nov 11, 2006, 08:26 AM

HCG is the hormone that rises in your body when you get pregnant, that is what the pregnancy tests recognize in giving either a positive test, meaning that the hormone is present in your body, or a negative test, not present in your body.

Prenatal vitamins do not increase the chance of pregnancy at all. The just provide you with necessary vitamins that will help maintain a healthy pregnancy.

Jnet29 · Nov 12, 2006, 03:35 PM

J_9 you are right about the doctors helping people who are married I'm sorry I'm not say this to people who are not married, before I went to see an obgyn doctor my husband and I were planning a child. I hope that everyone don't think that I'm tell unmarried people to go out and just make babies because that's not my intent. About the vitamins I was told by an obgyn doctor that the prenantal vitamins would increase our chances of having a baby and it did work for me, I know everyone body is different. Net