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Brunette_mafia · Nov 24, 2009, 03:21 AM

Hi there ,.:(

Ive been dating this guy for awhile now and i used to date him before ,.2 summers ago ,.we lived together for almost a year ,.about 3 months into the relationship ,.i became pregnant with his child but then had a miscarriage,.due to stress,..we broke up because of different circumstances ,.and left it at that ,..he dated ,.i dated after that ,..it was somewhat of a good relationship ,..i see the good in him and i do love this man to pieces ,.but in our relationship he never wanted to have sex or just be affectionate with me ,..i would go to kiss him and he would just throw me off of him ,.we are back together again and he has promised me he has changed his ways and wants to have a life with me ,..why am i going through this no affection again EVER ?!! the odd kiss here and there ,.but that's only when i want to get a kiss ,.i can't deal with this ,.but can someone please help me as to why he's being this way ,..did something happen to him as a child or maybe get burnt really bad in previous relationships,..he may be cheating ,.but he doesn't go anywhere ?????.....and i would leave him in a heartbeat if he was anyways ,..is there a way of telling if he is ????.....this is the first relationship in my entire life where Ive had to deal with this and it makes me sad

shazamataz · Nov 24, 2009, 04:14 AM

Don't mean to turn this around but if you got pregnant 3 months into the relationship there must have been some affection there ;)

Did something happen to him as a child?
Ask him

Is he cheating?
Ask him

Is there any way of telling?
Ask him.

Seriously the only way you are going to know is to sit down and talk with him.
Let him know you love him but you really need to discuss this before the relationship goes any further.

Gemini54 · Nov 24, 2009, 01:34 PM

If you care about this person then you need to talk to him - communicate. There is no point second guessing what may or may not have happened to him as a child - if you want to find out what is happening in his head and his heart then you need to talk.

I might add, if you're not getting the love and affection that you want now, then the chances of you getting it in 5, 10, 15 years are even less likely.

Sometimes the lack of connection simply means that the relationship is not meant to be.