[thatbeastkid]

I like this girl, and she's my friend, and I don't know if she likes me. I want to ask her out, but I don't really want it to get akward if she doesn't like me. I've known her for about 3 days, and we're already hugging each other, and she's sort of tom-boish so it's kind of hard to convince her to hug. I really don't know what to do. I know her email already, and we're hanging out tomorrow before school. I love her and don't know what to do... please help!

P.S.
She's a year younger than me

[WannaHelpOthers]

Sweetie,

To be completely honest I think it is too early for you to make a move on her. Like you said you've only known her for three days. So give her sometime, because I don't want you to scare her away. Instead of asking her out right now, just be a good friend to her. And things will fall into place.

*I wish you the BEST of luck*

[2ndTime]

Yes, slow down and get to know her as a person first. If you move too fast, you'll definitely make her run.

[jaime90]

3 days after meeting someone and you LOVE them? There's no such thing as love at first sight (if there is, then you fell in love with what you saw, not with who the person is.)

Getting involved with someone too early isn't uncommon these days. There's so much pressure on young people to have a significant other that most of us are tempted to fall for the first guy/girl that pays us attention. Unfortunately, this could also be the reason why our generation (I'm only 19 so I think I can speak for the youth here) will become adults with torn up broken hearts, and eventually broken marriages. (Don't believe me? Look at the divorce rate... no relationship is invincible from divorce, temptation to cheat, etc. If you think you are invincible, you're naïve.) Relationships take work and commitment- not feelings- if they're going to last. I asked a couple who had been married for 30 years how they stayed "in love" for so long. They said that they didn't always feel "in love." That love is a choice that you make. When the feelings fade away (and statistics show they do, after 2 years) reality will sink in, and that's where relationships fail.

This girl is practically a stranger. Cool your jets, and get to know her first. If you still feel the same after a while... (a LONG while; and remember, your feelings could change after you get to know her. If you find out that she's a controlling girlfriend, you'll wish you had spent a little more time getting to know her instead of waiting to break her heart because she's not the girl you thought she was.) THEN, you could pursue a relationship.

[I wish]

It's only been 3 days. Just keep getting to know each other better and let things flow naturally.

[J_9]

How old are you? Not being rude, but 13 comes to mind because you have only known this girl 3 days and she's already your friend. Friendships take a lifetime to build. You can't be "friends" in 3 days.