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monstar · Nov 10, 2009, 08:53 PM

Hi guys -

I met a girl last weekend at a mutual friend's party and spent most of the time talking to her there. We hit it off great, I split a cab with her home, got her phone number and really felt like she was interested. So I called her last night and left a voicemail. I usually don't really care if they ever call back (if they do great, if not, then I move on) but a) I liked this girl more than most, and b) I honestly thought she was in to me too.

I haven't heard back from her yet so I'm a little bummed but is it customary to wait this long to return a call? And do girls usually just ignore messages like this? I'd appreciate even a text message saying she'll be busy so I can at least take that hint.

LivingLife · Nov 10, 2009, 09:11 PM

Don't be pushy and don't read into it that much! A few questions to ask yourself
Who's idea was it to split the cab ride?
Was she sort of intoxicated?

Give it some time if she doesn't call back maybe try calling once more and then leaving it at that don't stay at home waiting for her call there are plenty of fish in the sea...

monstar · Nov 10, 2009, 09:13 PM

Haha valid questions, but I mean she actually offered and no neither of us were drunk. Yea I guess I'll just try to forget about it but man is it itching at me.

jaime90 · Nov 11, 2009, 11:30 AM

There are many reasons she wouldn't return your phone call. Maybe she's just way too busy- you called her last night- maybe she was asleep and is at work/school today.. Maybe her phone didn't pick up the fact that she has a voicemail (mine has done this many times.) Maybe she is ignoring you. Maybe she's giving herself time to think. There are many things that could be going on- don't automatically assume it's negative, and don't call her again. (if you do, you'll end up looking pushy and desperate, which the last thing you want to portray.)

If she had such a great time, I doubt she would ignore you- I'm sure she would give herself time to think about what to say to you, and would eventually call back. If it does turn out to be negative, do what you always do, realize that there are other fish in the sea, and move on.

dream11207 · Nov 12, 2009, 07:41 AM

Try her again

zippit · Nov 12, 2009, 07:46 AM

Originally Posted by dream11207

try her again

Same here it can't hurt anything,I know on my phone sometimes messages get dumped
There are some tech. reasons she didn't get the message or didn't tag the message with a number,I would try again you may let a good thing slip through your fingers,so what if you look pushy if she's not into you its not going to matter anyway

dream11207 · Nov 12, 2009, 07:50 AM

Exactly... and not that this is definitely the case but sometimes girls will test to see how interested a guy really is... the more interested the better, then she doesn't have to be questioning things 24/7. if you call her again, after not reaching her at first, it shows that you didn't get scared off from insecurity and that you REALLY want to see her.. call at least one day before the day you want to make a plan, two days before is even better

2ndTime · Nov 12, 2009, 11:41 AM

Are you sure you didn't read her friendliness and turned it into you think she likes you? Sometimes, a person can be very friendly, but that doesn't mean they want a relationship.

zippit · Nov 13, 2009, 09:36 AM

Originally Posted by 2ndTime

Are you sure you didn't read her friendliness and turned it into you think she likes you? Sometimes, a person can be very friendly, but that doesn't mean they want a relationship.

That's why pursuing it can't hurt if you'r wrong the worst that can happen is she would be flatered by the response right?I don't think two calls is considered stalking or annoying.

overayear · Nov 13, 2009, 11:42 AM

I would try one more time but not anytime soon. Maybe try it again next week and see what happens. If she doesn't pick up again then I would move on to the next. She could be really busy or waiting for a better time to call you back.