[roseandthebeast]

Well my ex and I dated for about seven months. At first he would do all the cute little things like open the door and be really sweet to me. It lasted for a while and we realized that we loved each other. So he even made plans to go to the same college as me so we could start our lives together. Summer came and he didn't talk to me for two weeks. A simple email saying hey I miss you I've been busy I'll call you later would have suficed. We made plans to go to a movie and it never happened. We were supposed to meet at the track on my birthday. He didn't show up. I waited for an hour and a half. I got fed up with doing all the work that I ended it. He tells his friends that I'm obsessive. When all I wanted was for him to just show up and love me. I go to college and a couple days later he's dating a freshman in high school . I had asked him if we could try and make this work he said yes but not right now. Anyway she dumped him and told him that she doesn't like him anymore. Ha! He left someone who actually cared about him for someone who would dump him in a week! Then I started talking to this other guy. He listened to everything I had to say. He's sweet and funny. He shows up. But I Don't LOVE HIM. He likes me A lot and I don't know what's the best route. The chick that he left me for is now on my side. She talked to him and I don't know if he wants me back. What if he does? Do I pick him or do I pick the other guy? And if he doesn't then what? Help!

[redhed35]

My advice is not to date either of them.

Your not over your ex,start no contact and move on.

As regards the other guy,its not fair to date him when your still hooked up on your ex.

[artlady]

You do not need a guy in your life.

That nonsense about soul mates and someone "completing" you is the stuff of romance novels.

The Ex sounds like he needs to be an ex as he was not there for you.

The new friend sounds like a nice friend but if you don't feel it for him,you can't force it.

Try going it alone.

You sound desperate to have a man in your life.

Know that you can only be ready to become involved in a healthy relationship when you have been by yourself and are content to do so.

[roseandthebeast]

thank you.
that's the first thing I said to the other guy was that I'm not over my ex and his response was that he'll try to make me forget about him =S and he's willing to wait until I'm over him

[jaime90]

I encourage you to be patient then, this guy is willing to compromise his "really really like you" feelings for you to work on your own feelings. This guy really could be worth waiting for. Just make sure you're really over your ex before moving on. Leftover feelings could cause harm to a potentially great relationship with this guy, so don't risk it- make sure that you're relieved of this break-up with your ex.

[talaniman]

I had asked him if we could try and make this work he said yes but not right now.

That would kill any feelings of love and pizz me off.

I think you just need time to get your feeling back together.