[shawnharnage]

I am a male 21 years old who has cheated on my g/f while she was out of town then realized that it was a huge mistake and didn't tell her then she found out by seeing old messages from the girl in my email I didn't want to tell her because I knew it would hurt her and now I'm scared she's never going to come back she says she loves me enough to let me try to do nice things for her to get back in her good graces I feel like just pouring my heart out but she is so mad that she inturupts it with venting which she has every right to vent her anger on me for the thing I have done, what is something I can do that's quick and not much talking that will show her I really do care and love her more than any other human being on this earth ? She likes to read and I just bought her a book from Amazon for christmas this girl,
If I lose this girl I'm am an idiot she is really something special she goes to school makes a's in colledge and is a very well driving individual please can someone help me

[Princesa559]

If you both really love each other, everything will find its way and you guys will be together in no time. What I suggest as a girl would be to not just pour your heart out to her but SHOW her. Show her that you're always on her mind and maybe show up at her place out of no where and surprise her with flowers, and maybe even pick up some food and take with you and eat dinner together and talk things through.

[shawnharnage]

I can't go to her house her parents hate me the only thing I can do is type to her and talk to her on the phone I don't know what I can say to make her feel better each day because I know this isn't just going to be one day its going to be months maybe years before I can earn that trust back

[blondndisguise5]

I was cheated on once and I loved my guy enough to let him back. So from her perspective I think here are some good tips
1. tell her a lot about your day and keep her really involved in your life so you don't have anything to hide
2. don't talk about the cheating unless she brings it up, if shedoes listen to EVERYTHING she says and she might yell and she might scream but she is right and sometimes she might need to get that anger out and sometims it might randomly hit her so be prepred for that
3. don't stop doing nice things even when you think she's over it
4. take her out and do something neither of you has ever done before "firsts" always help stregthen the relationship

honestly I think your in a really good spot, she is willing to forgive you and all you got to do is work your butt off to win her back which you seem willing to do... good luck!

[artlady]

She has to know that you know just exactly how much you hurt her and then *if* she can forgive it may work out,
In the meantime,you have to let her vent and give her tenderness and understanding.You are going to have to walk on eggshells for awhile and not do anything to remind her of your fall from grace.
Take it slow and ask her what she expects from you and how the two of you can overcome this together as a couple.Communication is key!
Good luck...

[shawnharnage]

That sounds awesome and gives me hope thank you so much

[talaniman]

There are no quick fixes, as it will take hard work, and action, to get her trust back.

[Romefalls19]

It's up to her to forgive you, it will take time and a lot of trying on your part. Be prepared to not be trusted for a long time