[spidy_six]

Hi All,

I would like to share my feelings with you people. If you have any suggestions let me know, probably they can help me in my life.

I always feel that I am losing something in my life especially love. I have had feelings for 3 girls till now in different situations. 1st one rejected me as she doesn't want to love anyone. Now she is my best friend and is still single. This is the 1st shock in my life, though I waited for her for more than 7years she never accepted me. It took 2years for me to become normal and I started to have feelings towards my colleague. I broke when I came to know that she already has a boyfrnd and is about to get married, But still I was not able to control my feelings. But I was not even able to disclose her the fact that I love her as she became my close friend by that time. So I remained silent for 2years and finally she got married. Again same thing happened with me but in a different way. But based on my previous experience it only took me 6months to become normal. Again as usual I started to have feeling towards another girl. Don't know why Iam doing this, I always try not to get into this but situations
And surroundings force me to take this step. This time I started to have feelings for a girl who was actually my close friend 1year ago and who always had some feelings for me which I never noticed and I use to fight with her and in fact I hurted her badly by Ignoring her always. The strange thing is I never expected or Imagined that one day I will have feeling towards her and she will say no to me. The day came, we became friends again and I don't know I started to have feelings towards her and I proposed her for Marriage, but for my shock she said she cannot accept me because she is currently in a breakup situation with some one else and also has some family issues.

I tried convincing her but she is not ready to accept. I though probably she is not trusting me as I always use to fight with her and as well as she was dumped two times. But I came to know that she is still waiting for the guy who ditched her recently and got married. Now that guy also started showing attention towards her. But I am not able to digest it becoz I know that guy and what he is expecting from her. Apart from all these troubles I also have
Another useless creature who is her best friend interrupting me and he also proposed her
Though she rejected him she still treats him as her best friend. Now when he came to know that I proposed her he became very conscious and is not leaving her at least for 2mins. I don't know what to do now, I tried all possible ways to convince her, But no joy. I don't say that I cannot live with out her but I am not able to accept that this is the 3rd time I am losing. What is happening with Me? Why every time I loose? Am I selecting wrong Person or my way of Approach is Wrong.

Might be this is very confusing for any one who reads this but it is fact. I am totally screwed. Some times I question myself that WHY ME? Always it happens to me. Though I am genuine towards every one I still have to face this. Some times I feel that probably
"I can never Experience True Love" in my life.

Please guys your suggestion is very Important for me now. I am not able to decide any thing neither I have a habit of sharing my feelings with friends. Please show me a way, I also want to experience Love like every one does

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...im-338277.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...de-341123.html

Your down on life after 3 rejections? I use to get that in a few months back in the day.

But after reading your other posts, I think developing better people skills, and learning how to resolve conflicts rather than avoid them, could give you a better perspective, and a better social life. A social life that puts you around diverse people, in diverse situations, would lighten up your attitude a lot, and help you see things differently. To many enemies (in your mind) not enough friends, and fun. Conflicts don't have to be adversarial, they can be engaging, and stimulating.

Get out, and about more, and get a smile, and a sense of humor going.

What do you do for fun, and with whom??

[jordyadele]

I'm glad that you can communicate openly. That is the key to a good relationship! Although, you also have to be aware of how the other person may react to the things you say.
Don't get discouraged. Don't put yourself in this "woe is me, im never going to find love" attitude. The right gal is out there! She could be having the same thoughts that you are. "ohh my God! i can't believe im still single! im never going to find the right guy! why does this always happen to me?" don't get discouraged and don't give up! She is out there looking for you too. And you never know, she might be right in front of you. You two have been searching for each other for awhile. Just give it time... time is on your side so be patient and wait...