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    Oct 17, 2009, 02:53 PM
    Wife cheated and I still want to be with her but she has feelings for him now
    Am I wrong for still wanting to be with my wife after she cheated?
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    Oct 17, 2009, 02:58 PM

    Sorry for your situation, no you are not wrong to still have feelings, she is a lucky woman in my opinion in that regard. How long have you been married, and are their any children involved ?

    Sometimes these affairs don't last.

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    Oct 17, 2009, 06:27 PM
    You are not wrong to still care about her. Feelings don't disappear overnight. However, you may need to face the fact that she 'has feelings' for him.

    Is she still with you or has she left to be with him or by herself?

    Something to keep in mind, you can not make someone love you, desire you, want to live you, etc. That person has to want to be with you.

    Another thing to think about very carefully, though you still love her, do you think that you can ever trust her again or not think about her being with him? If you can't, then let her go now before any more pain is caused.

    Last and actually first, marriage counseling to decide where the relationship is going and whether to end it would probably help.
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    Oct 18, 2009, 07:19 PM

    Your not wrong for having feelings for her, but it depends if you both are going to work through this or not.

    If she isn't willing, then your wasting your time. She will cheat again.

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