[kittyhawk23]

I was seeing a guy I am crazy about for the past year and a half - he was previously in a 8 year relationship - his fiancée left him for her work colleague a few months before their wedding. This had been going on for some time before he found out. That was 3 years ago . He was by his own admission utterly devastated.
I was the first person he even kissed since the break-up. On the whole our 1.5 year relationship was really good - we have a laugh , similar interests , getting on great with each other's families and enjoyed spending a lot of time together.
I made the mistake of telling him that I loved him at a time when he was not ready to say the same.. He has told me I'm really special etc… but could not tell me he loved me yet.
Approx 3 weeks ago we bumped into his ex-fiancée in a supermarket - she is having a child with the guy she left him for.. this had a bad affect on him.. He was still spending lots of time with me and doing nice things but something was a miss.The hurt he felt before became very pronounced. We had a chat about it - unfortunately there was some alcohol involved . I explained that I Found it difficult to be with him when he was still so affected by his past . He said he was still very screwed up and betrayed from his past and that he needed to get his head sorted before we thing about a long-term future. He has said he would really like to move on with me and be happy again.
He is so sorry for hurting me and has rang a councilor ( with my persuasion) and arranged a first session to make sense of everything and try to get closure. He has asked that we take time apart as a couple to allow him to get over this betrayal for once and for all and give us a chance of a future. He would like us to remain friends and meet up to talk once or twice a week.

Could this be a good idea ?

[talaniman]

I really think you both should set a specific time limit to leave each other alone, before you set up a regular "meet up to talk once or twice a week" type of thing.

At least you both can avoid the false hope of things working out, and being in limbo waiting for each other to get back together or whatever.

You will have plenty of time to be friends later, AFTER SOME EMOTIONAL HEALING.