I was seeing a guy I am crazy about for the past year and a half - he was previously in a 8 year relationship - his fiancée left him for her work colleague a few months before their wedding. This had been going on for some time before he found out. That was 3 years ago . He was by his own admission utterly devastated.
I was the first person he even kissed since the break-up. On the whole our 1.5 year relationship was really good - we have a laugh , similar interests , getting on great with each other's families and enjoyed spending a lot of time together.
I made the mistake of telling him that I loved him at a time when he was not ready to say the same.. He has told me I'm really special etc… but could not tell me he loved me yet.
Approx 3 weeks ago we bumped into his ex-fiancée in a supermarket - she is having a child with the guy she left him for.. this had a bad affect on him.. He was still spending lots of time with me and doing nice things but something was a miss.The hurt he felt before became very pronounced. We had a chat about it - unfortunately there was some alcohol involved . I explained that I Found it difficult to be with him when he was still so affected by his past . He said he was still very screwed up and betrayed from his past and that he needed to get his head sorted before we thing about a long-term future. He has said he would really like to move on with me and be happy again.
He is so sorry for hurting me and has rang a councilor ( with my persuasion) and arranged a first session to make sense of everything and try to get closure. He has asked that we take time apart as a couple to allow him to get over this betrayal for once and for all and give us a chance of a future. He would like us to remain friends and meet up to talk once or twice a week.
Could this be a good idea ?
