Originally Posted by
Strange-chicken
sorry maybe i wasn't clear in what i meant... society expects people to tell everyone they're gay before they can have relationships. and i agree with you that many part do pressure people to remain hidden and closeted.
the act of coming out seems to be a humiliating one in that before someone can have a relationship they must confess to all about what type of sexual experiences they wish to have ie with men. it seems to be a huge invasion of privacy which in the eyes of society is acceptable, in which society then contradicts itself by haveing large factions which believe homosexuality is an abomination. leaving many gay and lesbian people feeling ostracised.
hope this has made it clearer where i'm coming from .
I haven't noticed that society pressures gay teens to come out- if anything, the bullying of perceived gay kids in high school is so severe, it causes many kids to commit suicide.
As for coming out being humiliating because folks will know or speculate about certain sexual experiences... well, the way I see it, every time a straight person has photos of their spouse and kids on their desk, etc. we all know what or who they're probably doing in bed, right? It's not humiliating for them, nor should it be- so, it's not humiliating for me. It's who we are.
Coming out is a personal decision. Do it if and when you feel ready. :)