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lindastoningpot · Sep 17, 2009, 05:09 AM

I have been with my husband for 4 years and we have 2 children, I'm sexually attracted to him and I love him. But when we have sex I don't have normal orgasm. It's like I get half an oragasm then I feel like just pushing him off me. Sometimes I cry even though I'm not physically hurt. It has happened in other relationships before I was with him too. He comforts me and doesn't get upset about it but I just wish we could have normal relations. I have no history of sexual or physical abuse. Has this happened to anyone else? Or does anyone have any suggestions on what wrong with me? :confused:

Cat1864 · Sep 17, 2009, 05:52 AM

When that happens to me it is because the release is so powerful. The wave of endorphins can be overwhelming. Also there is the release of emotion and all the tension built up in getting to the orgasm. It really is like a dam bursting. Including the tears.

It is scary when you don't realize what is happening. Instead of pushing him away try holding on.

lindastoningpot · Sep 17, 2009, 06:45 AM

So should I just let the tears come out. I try to hold it in because I'm embarrassed. Usually I run to the bathroom. Do you think it would help if I just let it out with him there?

Cat1864 · Sep 17, 2009, 07:32 AM

Yes, trust him to keep you safe when you feel at your most vunerable moments.

lindastoningpot · Sep 17, 2009, 08:40 AM

Thanks for your advice. It's hard to be emotional in front of men, for me. I was raised by women and was hardly around straight men at all till I was in high school. I'm not blaming my moms they they were good parents but I can't help but feel guilty about being with a guy. The last time I had a regular orgasm was in a 3-way. My then girlfriend made me feel guilty cause I couldn't have one with only her. I started to repress my oragasms so I wouldn't make her angry. Eventually I wised up and left the whole situation. But it seems that I have some lasting effects.

Cat1864 · Sep 17, 2009, 08:52 AM

It may help to talk with your husband about your fears. It could help him better understand how to give you support and comfort and probably relieve some of his concerns.