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    Sep 12, 2009, 04:16 PM
    Bi guy falling for str8 guy
    I work with is guy he is 21 and I am 23 we are really good friends we hang out all the time and we have a lot of things in common. He does not know that I am bi but I think he knows that I like him. Here are a few things he does that makes me wonder if he shares the same feelings for me, we always make eye contact with one another whenever he comes over my house or at work I can always count on him looking at me and there have been some many times when we both stare at each other and then just smile. When we go out or chill at the crib he always get's a seat next to me and every time he makes his arm or leg touch mine and always ask me to slide over and stop touching him but 10 seconds later he is back touching me. He also has little gay nick name's for me with I find kind of cute, one day he came over my crib and I still had on my scrub PJ's I knew he was coming and they make my look much phatter so I wanted him to get a good look and he did he has stress to me how much he likes the PJ's and calls me a scrub sum times when I am doing sum thing he likes but what has convince that he may be bi or gay is just 3days ago I was leaving his house very late, he had punch me in the arm earlier so I smack him in his head on my way out he hit me back and the said I should get u where it really hurts and play wit those tidy's I said what and he just stared and smile at me, when I was leaving I could notice that he was getting hard I wanted to grab it and push him back in his room but I am still very unsure help me sumbody.
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    Sep 12, 2009, 05:24 PM
    Are either of you in relationships at this time? People in relationships are off-limits. Don't go any farther until both of you are single again.

    Does he think you are straight or gay, if he doesn't know you are bi?

    Looks like time to decide if you want to keep the friendship or take a chance that there might be more there. What are you wanting in the "new" relationship? A partner or just a playmate?

    If he is straight or bi-curious, do you want to risk the friendship on possibly being a "learning experience" that he may "dump" if it turns out he is uncomfortable with the situation?

    If he is bi or gay, is he someone that you really want a relationship with or just want?

    Now I am back to the big word in any relationship-friend or romantic-communication. Talk with him like it sounds like you would want him to talk with you. It is all speculation until you ask.
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    Sep 12, 2009, 05:38 PM

    You know I have a thing for Janet Jackson but guess what it is not going to happen. If he is straight, then he has no sexual interest in another man.
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    Sep 12, 2009, 06:13 PM
    We are both single and yes I would love to have a relationship with him and I have never felt that way about any guy before.
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    Sep 12, 2009, 07:05 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by DClova09 View Post
    We are both single and yes I would love to have a relationship with him and I have never felt that way about any guy before.
    Then the ball is in your court.

    Back to communication. Talk with him.
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    Sep 12, 2009, 07:16 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by DClova09 View Post
    chill at the crib
    Aren't you all too old to be in a crib?

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