Check out some similar questions!

cheerbaby14 · Sep 10, 2009, 01:39 PM

well i have been in a relationship on and off for almost 2years now. we used to trust eachother so much now its like he will do what he wants.i love him more than anything nd everytime i try to leave he begs me back he promises me its the last time yr my true love,theres noone better than u for me.he has cheated on me in the past i have found out and he has tryed to cover up but that didnt work,so he admitted it but said he loves me and he was stupid and didnt know how he could do that because he loves me,well i knew he lieed allot,but now i dont know what to do? give him a last chance? he has been calling me messaging not dating anyone because he says noone feels right but me.he said this will be the last timee if i up its over ffor good,but i wont because i know i will really lose u now,i love him and its hard to blow him off because he means so much to me.should i give him another chance and see if he realy means it? he has done some to prove to me he really does this time but i just dont know how to trust him anymore

mudweiser · Sep 10, 2009, 01:44 PM

How long has it been that he hasn't been "dating" anyone?

A week? Forget about it
A year? Well then it's worth another shot.

I think you need some space. Separate yourself from him, stop talking to him and see the bigger picture.

Sometimes you can't see how much sh!t your stepping on until you back away.

My suggestion is that if it was 2 years of lies and cheating then those two years aren't worth another 2 years of damage repair.

You may think you love him but I believe it's more of an attachment issue. It's human, we're comfortable in what we know-- even if it's bad for us.

Chances are while you start giving yourself some time to do damage control on your OWN emotions since you got hurt you'll start to see that he is not worth your time.

Sarah

I wish · Sep 10, 2009, 02:21 PM

Originally Posted by cheerbaby14

.should i give him another chance and see if he realy means it? he has done some to prove to me he really does this time but i just dont know how to trust him anymore

You're in the control seat. If you feel that he can make sufficient/satisfactory progress, then give him another shot. But if he doesn't improve enough, then don't continue to suffer. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't settle for someone that you don't trust.

No trust = no relationship