[Nina00]

I am so confused right now. Let me start by how we met. I met *shaun through a very close friend of mine back in May. When we started hanging out together I figured this would just be a summer fling, nothing more. Boy was I wrong. Shaun and I started going out of town together, visiting fancy restaurants, and he enjoyed being around my son. Mind you, we were not in a relationship (we were 'friends') and yes sex was involved :o. Anyway my confusing point: when we first started communicating neither one of us wanted a significant other or anyhting thought to be on a serious note. I figured he was not the one but I just wanted to have fun. The fun part grew into something more though. He was staying the night 4 and 5 times out of the week, coming back once he got off work, we even spent 4th of July, Labor Day, & Thanksgiving together. Sounds all good so far huh? Well day after Thanksgiving, we talked and he told me we should not keep having sex-I'm fine with that. But it was a few days later when he confessed he had very strong feelings for me that took me for a loop. To know shaun, you would think, no woman would ever hold him down but I was the one that accomplished that. The sex was out so that he could get to know me even better (so he said) but then he informed me that he wanted to let those feelings he had go. As of now I am crushed and do not know what to do or say. It has been 2 weeks since I have seen him and I cry every time I think about him not laying beside me, us going to our favorite restaurant, or him not putting a smile on my face. I never expected to catch feelings but s**t happens and those situations are in Gods hands. I still talk to him on the phone and we do text but he says its best that we don't see each other... I need some advice, I am seriously hurting right now.

-NINA

[talaniman]

You had a great whirlwind summer fling, that lasted longer than expected, and your head is still spinning, it will be awhile before you get your feet back on the ground.