[chinni7591]

Me and my husband spent 8 years of happy married life.

We used to have small fights but nothing major. We don't have kids. We have started our treatment. Recently 3 months ago, he got a new offshore resource. He used to teach that girl subject everyday early morning. Initially I didn't take it wrong. But recently I saw his chat little off limit. So I got so mad and fought with him. He said that it was not in any bad intention even though he accepted that he has spoken little off limit. I was so mad and I spoke to that girl also directly. I wanted to know what her intentions were. She said it was not her but my husband who spoke off limit and she didn't like it but she kept quite as he was her boss. And she is also engaged and her fiancée is also upset about it.

Then after the fight he promised me that he will not speak to her anything personally. So I kept quite but I started getting more doubt. From that day, I started chatting with that girl regularly. I also work in the same place but in different department. Last week that girl had her birthday and he send her a birthday gift (cake, card, and her favorite idol god) to her house. I was so mad. I fought with him again and that girl was also so upset. He was saying I did only as a team member and again not with any intention. In the meantime, just to save my husband's name, I told her that it was me who sent it as I know that her fiancée also didn't like it. That girl got so upset and she spoke to him directly saying she didn't like such things and she doesn't want any gift from both of us infuture and he told her saying that will never happen again.


But he never told me sorry or anything which hurts my feeling even today. Again we always fight everyday by talking about her somehow.

I love my husband. And I wanted to save my marriage life. But at the sametime, I am not feeling comfortable with her chatting with him. I still felt like he flirted with that girl. How do I handle this situation?

[I wish]

It definitely sounds like he's interested in this girl. This might sound harsh, but I find it unacceptable that he bought her a cake, card and gift. All he has to do is say happy birthday and that would be enough.

I think you might need to draw the line and tell him that he has to cut contact with her. Otherwise, you won't be able to trust him. Without trust, there's no marriage (read my signature).