I afraid there is no over fix here.. you seem to be doing well,building self esteem and confidence takes time..
Here are some suggestions that you may find helpful.
1. write down all of your good points.. everything,include even the small things.example you like the colour of your eyes. Work on this list,add to it.
2.take up a hobbie or an interest.
Being good at something will boost your confidence,there are many hobbies out there,try something new,be a little bit brave and do something you have always liked to try.
3.exercise.. this may seem out of context for building confidence,but feeling healthy and sleeping well will help promote an over feeling of well being.
4. take notice of beautiful things.. looking at things,example a beautiful sky or stars or even a child playing can release those happy hormone,and its also something you can share.
5. read the paper,listen to current events,if current topics come up in conversation you will have the confidence to join in,or perhaps ask someone what they think.
6.smile at people.
7.if your boyfriend asks you 'would you like to go to a movie' say the movie you want to go to.. its always good to compromise but its also good to say want you want too.. you could always take turns.
8. use a mantra .example.. I am a wonderful person,I deserve respect and love,I WILL be more confident.
9. you have survived a bad rerlationship,you are free from that situation now,look to your future,and know now that you are in a position to help others.
10. Know that no one is perfect,forgive yourself when you make a mistake,and finally.. love yourself.
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