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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:09 PM
    What's between a kiss and sex.
    I've been with this boy for nearly 4 months now and he is getting really serious about our relationship. He said to me a while ago that he wanted me to give him a blow job. But I said no because it was just way too soon, so he and I forgot about that. Now I thought I want more than a kiss but not give him a blow job. So have youu got any ideas what we could do, more than a kiss! Help please. Thanks.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:15 PM

    How old are you Dani?
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:23 PM

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...im-360627.html,

    I thought you guts broke up in June because you didn't like him?
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:24 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    How old are you Dani?
    I'm wondering the same thing.

    There's a lot between a kiss and sex, but are you ready for any of it?

    What are you looking for in this relationship? Are you old enough, mature enough, to handle more then just a kiss?
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:28 PM

    Ok I'm 14 nearly 15.
    Well what happened I was with him but we broke up, then I just couldn't be away from him and I knew I couldn't get over him.
    Im just kind of past kiss, but I would do it but I'm too afraid to do it!
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by DaniDanDan123 View Post
    Ok im 14 nearly 15.
    Well what happened i was with him but we broke up, then i just couldnt be away from him and i knew i couldnt get over him.
    Im just kinda past kiss, but i would do it but im too afraid to do it!
    You're too young to do anything other then kissing and holding hands.

    You do realize that STD's can be transmitted through oral sex, right?
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:30 PM

    I would suggest learning to deal with your own feelings WITHOUT him in your life. It is almost as if you are letting your insecurities force you into doing sexual things to a guy because you are lonely... slow down!!

    On a side note, how old is your boyfriend? Don't know too many 14 or 15 year olds that actually ASK for a blow job.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:34 PM

    Yeah I no but I don't know how to get him of the idea.. I don't want to say no cause I really like him. But OK I meant not oral cause I don't want to give him a BJ but what about between kiss and oral then?
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:36 PM

    Hold hands, snug, cuddle, do all that stuff. Leave the rest for a different time. If you aren't comfortable enough to do it without asking, then DON'T. You don't have to be extremely physical to share a bond... sometimes less is more.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:36 PM
    He's the same age a month or 2 older but he didn't ask for it, he is very shy he kind of just said he'd like more than kiss and I said same and he said what about BJ?
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by DaniDanDan123 View Post
    yeah i no but i dont know how to get him of the idea .. i dont want to say no cause i really like him. But ok i meant not oral cause i dont want to give him a BJ but what about between kiss and oral then??
    What did you have in mind? What do you think is between a kiss and oral?

    Are you ready for any of it?

    If you really like him and he likes you then telling him you're not ready shouldn't be a big deal. Heck, it's a test to see how much he really does like you. If you say no and he breaks up with you, then he's not worth your time anyway.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:37 PM
    We do all that, and its just dead now and kind of boring.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:39 PM

    Until he is man enough to have a baby tell him to keep it in his pants. I know I am not your father but mature a bit before thinking about rounding third.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:40 PM
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    we do all that, and its just dead now and kinda boring.
    So there's nothing else to your relationship except the physical aspect?

    Not good.

    What do the two of you have in common?

    Do you do anything other then kiss and snuggle etc?

    Sounds like it's time to call it quits.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:41 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    Until he is man enough to have a baby tell him to keep it in his pants. I know I am not your father but mature a bit before thinking about rounding third.
    Heck, don't even go to second! ;)
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:44 PM

    No we always chat. And I love our chats!
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:47 PM
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    No we always chat. And i love our chats!
    Then stick to chatting instead of moving on to more adult behavior.

    You're not ready. How do I know? Because of your posts, the fact that you're 14 and you've only been with him a short while.

    Don't be in such a hurry to grow up, it will happen soon enough.

    Take it from someone that didn't listen and did do things I wasn't ready for.

    If you take the next step then it won't be long before he wants to go even further.

    Slow down, enjoy your teen years, wait until you're older and ready.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:50 PM

    Yeah. ThankYouu all for the advice. X
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by DaniDanDan123 View Post
    yeah. ThankYouu all for the advice. x
    Why do I have the feeling that a few months from now you'll be posting because you think you're pregnant?

    It never ends.

    I hope that you make the right decision.

    Good luck.
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    Aug 11, 2009, 05:58 PM

    HaaHaa, don't worry I really would not go there I don't want that till I'm way older.
    Thank you, + he hasn't spoke about it in ages so I think he's over that.
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