[stephanie12]

I'm 18 and know I'm still young but I never had a relationship let alone even have a guy take a second look at me and yeah I am kind of OK with it, But here's the deal I have a best friend that I love no doubt but she always seems to have some guy after her and right now she's in a situation about these 2 guys that are head over heals for her and she can't choose which one to be with,and when she stops giving attention to one they come to me as like a last resort urgggh, not only that but she comes to me for advice, she is my best friend and I want to be there for her but every time we talk about it or anything on that topic I feel soooo horrible about myself. Not only that but she is the type of person to treat everyone badly and doesn't care and I on the other hand am totally the opposite and she still gets all these people after her and I don't get it. I want to be there for her but honestly when we come on this topic I feel like I am not worthy enough to have someone and question my looks, and everything and if I will ever get that kind of situation even with one guy I honestly don't know what to do. I mean how can you be around something that makes you feel bad about yourself all the time to the point of tears. Am I crazy??

[N0help4u]

I think you sound like a very caring compassionate person. I know exactly what you mean. Its hard seeing guys go after one girl and you feeling like you are just the consolation prize for any one that doesn't get her. You might end up telling her off about coming to you to get advice when she seems to do all too well on her own if you let it get to the point of resentment.
I really don't know the answer because I never got past guys treating me like the kid sister either.

[minaeve25]

Hi. First off if you feel that way about her than you should not be friends with her. Secondly, you seem very unhappy. Would you want to date a guy that seems unhappy about themselves all the time? I'm single and when I'm in a good mood and feel good about myself guys will talk to me& ask me out. If I'm depressed or in a bad mood they won't. People can sense how you feel about yourself.

[zippit]

There's nothing crazy about you and you sound like a good friend,maybe too good it my stroke her ego to talk to you about her boy problems you could try changing the subject and if she doesn't get the hint tell her about it.When I was you'r age I remember being quite fond of my girlfriends friends don't let the guys bother you and don't think they are coming to you as a last resort take the opportunity to let your light shine.

[inertia]

Don't ever be second pick. You'll never feel comfortable in that situation. What do you get out of this friendship exactly? I'm not saying you should give her the cold shoulder, but maybe put a little more distance between you and her. I'll let you in on something from the guy's side of this. If she makes you feel that way, she is more than likely making these guys feel that way too. She's a vampire.

Find people you can truly relate to as friends. They may not be *popular* per se, but they will be genuine friends. I think once you are surrounded by people that you enjoy, your confidence will sky rocket. You'll be more likely to meet a guy more suitable for you.

I have always dated and hung around strange people. I'm strange, so it's a fit. As you get older, you'll realize this more and more.

[talaniman]

You need to hang out with some different people, and spend less time with this friend. Look at the guys she attracts, and if your there too, guess what they will think of you.

Spread your own wings, and let her trip out on her own.