[dincher]

I wonder why someone would say, "I missed your fellowship" as opposed to saying "I missed you"

I find that a little bit odd - it kind of distances the person from the actual activity if you understand what I mean... any thoughts?

[kctiger]

Lonliness breeds feelings such as this. Perhaps they don't miss you per-say, but more the feeling of companionship. It is one reason couples get back together, because one or both parties are afraid to be alone.

[dincher]

Lonliness breeds feelings such as this. Perhaps they don't miss you per-say, but more the feeling of companionship. It is one reason couples get back together, because one or both parties are afraid to be alone.

Well I think it's strange. Without the person's character or what makes a person, there would be none of the "qualities" which make the fellowship.

[roxypox]

Well I think it's strange. Without the person's character or what makes a person, there would be none of the "qualities" which make the fellowship.

That's a good point! And I've been wondering about this myself. But I def think that KC is onto something. It might be because:

A) they miss your company.

Or

B) they miss you but are unable to say it.

Although B can also be an easy way to fall into the trap of wishful thinking if A is true.

LOL did this make any sense?

But I do think it is a way of creating distance, but then again it can also be a very honest remark. I miss your fellowship... if you don't mind me asking, did someone tell you this?

[dincher]

Thats a good point! And I've been wondering about this myself. But I def think that KC is onto something. It might be because:

A) they miss your company.

or

B) they miss you but are unable to say it.

although B can also be an easy way to fall into the trap of wishful thinking if A is true.

LOL did this make any sense?

But I do think it is a way of creating distance, but then again it can also be a very honest remark. I miss your fellowship..... if you don't mind me asking, did someone tell you this?

Yes someone did tell me this - and I should add that the relationship is non-romantic, which is why I think it's really odd the person would say this.

[roxypox]

Well... if its non romantic and you hadn't seen each other in a while then the answer is A) they missed your company. Which of course might sound odd when someone says it, but I guess it just means what it means.

In all honesty, I don't think that this means that it is a way of distancing, it just is what it is.

Of course people are different and chose to express themselves differently...

[I wish]

Is it possible that English isn't the person's first language? Now that I think about it, I've heard it before from people who don't speak English as a first language.

[roxypox]

I wish: had to spread rep (as usual): but that's a good question! When English is a second language it can def make some remarks and comments come out wrong...

(sorry Off topic, but once, when I was in the US I tried to crack a joke, like I would in Norwegian and I made it sound like a serious insult!)

[talaniman]

Could you be reading too much in what they say?? Take what they say without going to deep into it. It was a compliment.

[roxypox]

Tal: had to spread the rep: I think your on to something. It is a compliment! And the OP might be reading too much into it... possibly.

[dincher]

Tal: had to spread the rep: I think your on to something. It is a compliment! And the OP might be reading too much into it... possibly.

Well the person's first language IS English lol. I thought I read a little bit too much into it, but I don't know - missing a fellowship struck me as strange.

[talaniman]

"I missed your fellowship" as opposed to saying "I missed you"

People often have different ways to express themselves. Strange to you, maybe, but it's the thought behind it that counts.