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  • Jul 24, 2009, 05:56 AM
    dincher
    Distancing the person from the activity?
    I wonder why someone would say, "I missed your fellowship" as opposed to saying "I missed you"

    I find that a little bit odd - it kind of distances the person from the actual activity if you understand what I mean... any thoughts?
  • Jul 24, 2009, 05:59 AM
    kctiger

    Lonliness breeds feelings such as this. Perhaps they don't miss you per-say, but more the feeling of companionship. It is one reason couples get back together, because one or both parties are afraid to be alone.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 06:13 AM
    dincher
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    Lonliness breeds feelings such as this. Perhaps they don't miss you per-say, but more the feeling of companionship. It is one reason couples get back together, because one or both parties are afraid to be alone.

    Well I think it's strange. Without the person's character or what makes a person, there would be none of the "qualities" which make the fellowship.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 06:26 AM
    roxypox
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by dincher View Post
    Well I think it's strange. Without the person's character or what makes a person, there would be none of the "qualities" which make the fellowship.

    That's a good point! And I've been wondering about this myself. But I def think that KC is onto something. It might be because:

    A) they miss your company.

    Or

    B) they miss you but are unable to say it.

    Although B can also be an easy way to fall into the trap of wishful thinking if A is true.

    LOL did this make any sense?

    But I do think it is a way of creating distance, but then again it can also be a very honest remark. I miss your fellowship... if you don't mind me asking, did someone tell you this?
  • Jul 24, 2009, 07:19 AM
    dincher
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by roxypox View Post
    Thats a good point! And I've been wondering about this myself. But I def think that KC is onto something. It might be because:

    A) they miss your company.

    or

    B) they miss you but are unable to say it.

    although B can also be an easy way to fall into the trap of wishful thinking if A is true.

    LOL did this make any sense?

    But I do think it is a way of creating distance, but then again it can also be a very honest remark. I miss your fellowship..... if you don't mind me asking, did someone tell you this?

    Yes someone did tell me this - and I should add that the relationship is non-romantic, which is why I think it's really odd the person would say this.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 07:30 AM
    roxypox

    Well... if its non romantic and you hadn't seen each other in a while then the answer is A) they missed your company. Which of course might sound odd when someone says it, but I guess it just means what it means.

    In all honesty, I don't think that this means that it is a way of distancing, it just is what it is.

    Of course people are different and chose to express themselves differently...
  • Jul 24, 2009, 07:35 AM
    I wish
    Is it possible that English isn't the person's first language? Now that I think about it, I've heard it before from people who don't speak English as a first language.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 07:41 AM
    roxypox

    I wish: had to spread rep (as usual): but that's a good question! When English is a second language it can def make some remarks and comments come out wrong...

    (sorry Off topic, but once, when I was in the US I tried to crack a joke, like I would in Norwegian and I made it sound like a serious insult!)
  • Jul 24, 2009, 08:00 AM
    talaniman

    Could you be reading too much in what they say?? Take what they say without going to deep into it. It was a compliment.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 08:23 AM
    roxypox
    Tal: had to spread the rep: I think your on to something. It is a compliment! And the OP might be reading too much into it... possibly.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 09:32 AM
    dincher
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by roxypox View Post
    Tal: had to spread the rep: I think your on to something. It is a compliment! And the OP might be reading too much into it... possibly.

    Well the person's first language IS English lol. I thought I read a little bit too much into it, but I don't know - missing a fellowship struck me as strange.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 09:53 AM
    talaniman

    Quote:

    "I missed your fellowship" as opposed to saying "I missed you"

    People often have different ways to express themselves. Strange to you, maybe, but it's the thought behind it that counts.

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