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latesha · Jul 19, 2009, 01:13 AM

I don't no what to do?? I'm in my prime and my man isn't giving me any sex. He doesn't want me to go down on him he won't go down on me.im in need of sex and I'm being deprived. He tells me that he is having a midlife crises? And he doesn't want to have sex:confused:

MILINDWAIGANKAR · Jul 19, 2009, 01:31 AM

Hi
Try to convince him properly in the night... if still no change, go in for some other source.. I mean try someone new outside ( safe sex ).. one should take care of his own feelings

Catsmine · Jul 19, 2009, 05:33 AM

Have you ever had sex with him?

Does he want to wait until the wedding?

Is there a medical issue, has he been to the Dr. recently?

chhad yar · Jul 19, 2009, 05:33 AM

Oooooooo, it is very serious and mostly common problem in marriage couple. But in your case I really did not understan.

Mostly when man cross 35 year, they do like this, they don't have interest but not like your boyfriend.

You should need to approch him with different ways. Read some goods books on this topic and try to convince him.

If he did not show his interest with you then you should end this releationship. And find new partner, who love you, care you, and appeal you.

redhed35 · Jul 19, 2009, 05:48 AM

I seriously doubt trying to convince him will work,putting him under pressure to perform will only cause more stress..

Talk to him,find out if there is underlining issues or medical problem.

Really the only way to get to the bottom of this is to communicate with him.. TALK!

Fr_Chuck · Jul 19, 2009, 06:54 AM

First men 38 can normally be good for sex every day, if they are in good physcial condition. Not that anyone needs sex everyday.

But my wonder at the age difference is perhaps you were one of the mid life issues, running off for a girl half your age is often a middle life thing, and then they think of their mistake and want their old life back.

Or perhaps he has found one a couple years younger who knows.

bronzebabe · Jul 19, 2009, 09:40 AM

have you all EVER had sex?
Have you asked him if he is having any problems? Does he seem interested at all in you?
Somehow I think we aren't getting the "whole picture" here. Could you let us know?

MissTaurus · Jul 19, 2009, 02:38 PM

Yes, I agree with most of the comments above mine, trying talking to him about it and find out what it is really going on. I understand that you want to have sex but right now, start with caring about what's going on with your fiancé.

Gemini54 · Jul 19, 2009, 04:12 PM

Oh for heaven's sake! All this bull$hit about men over 35 not being able to perform on a daily basis is absolute rubbish! It's nothing to do with age, it's to do with motivation.

(Just as an aside, my husband is 50+ and he's as frisky as when he was 38)

Clearly there is something wrong with the communication between you if he's giving you excuses about a mid-life crisis. There may well be something physically wrong with him, or the relationship may be in trouble - who knows - but you won't find anything out unless you talk to each other.