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FlashFire19 · Jul 13, 2009, 07:47 PM

I think about her every day and I'm just not sure if I should tell her that I love her, considering the fact that she has a boyfriend. Whatever happens, I want her to be happy. I thought about slipping a note in her shoe whenever I get the chance. By the way, I'm 14. Please help.

friend4u178 · Jul 13, 2009, 08:20 PM

She already has a BF so she is OFF LIMITS!!

Torrid13 · Jul 13, 2009, 08:26 PM

You love her and want what's best for her, right?

So do what's best for her and don't ruin her current relationship.

See how loving that is?

talaniman · Jul 13, 2009, 08:52 PM

I don't think the note in the shoe is a good idea. Telling her how you feel is not a good idea either. I think its best to just leave a situation like that alone, as it would be kind of rough to be rejected by her, and then she, and all her friends will know you like her.

Leave this alone, and get your own girlfriend, and don't mess with someone else's girl.

How would you feel if someone was messing with your girl?

RandomGuy123 · Jul 13, 2009, 08:57 PM

1. You only 14 for one - Having life time relationships from that age is unfortunately rare.

2. Even if she did "dump" her now boyfriend for you, would you really want a girlfriend that could do that to her boyfriend - If your saying, "I don't care" your what some people call, "thinking with your ***".

3. Think about how the guy will feel - Sad, and embarrassed probably.

4. Just wait till high school! YEAH!! And College!! - Haha, just wait till high school man. There's going to be lots of girls there :)

FlashFire19 · Jul 14, 2009, 03:30 AM

Um, actually, I'm homeschooled.

FlashFire19 · Jul 14, 2009, 03:34 AM

Besides, she has never dumped someone, not yet at least. And she's a sucker for stuff like "aww, that's so sweet!" Her previous boyfriend dumped her at disney world, so I'm not sure how long she's been with this one. I don't think it has been very long.

talaniman · Jul 14, 2009, 05:08 AM

That's her business though, but you can be a friend, and friends don't just try to ruin what another friend has going on. That would be selfish, and manipulative. You would be no better than the loser (in your opinion) that she has now. That's no good.

HelpinHere · Jul 14, 2009, 08:58 AM

I agree. Just, stick around, and be there for her. If she doesn't stay with her current boyfriend, then chances are you'll be right there for her.
By trying to get with her now, and not being patient, you could only make things worse for yourself.

Also, why did you choose her shoe to slip the note?
(just curious)

FlashFire19 · Jul 14, 2009, 03:55 PM

I don't know.

talaniman · Jul 14, 2009, 04:43 PM

Fair warning, just being a friend can ruin any chance at romance. I think being balanced with other things will help, as being to close a friend could be as bad as her having a boyfriend.

FlashFire19 · Jul 14, 2009, 08:16 PM

I took a leap of faith and apparently, she doesn't have a boyfriend! I used a new Facebook account and used a fake identity and told her my feelings and so far so good! She hasn't figured everything out yet, but she will by tomorrow!

friend4u178 · Jul 14, 2009, 08:30 PM

If you play games be prepared for the consequences when she finds out.

AManWithNoName · Jul 14, 2009, 10:35 PM

What's with all these kids liking girls with boyfreinds or girlfreinds? The teenage life shouldn't have to be this dramatic if we just used common sense!!
Listen, any girl with a boyfreind is going to love that boyfreind no matter what! Gaaaah!! I can't stand guys like you because my girlfreind has a little admirer, and really, its just as bad for the boyfreind! We see it as competition. And if you do put the note in her shoe, who's the first person she tells? The boyfreind! And what's he going to want to do? Hurt you! Hurt you a lot! But she won't let us, ooh no! But you will never be on her good side, because putting notes in girls shoes is creepy, not charming or cute! "But i love her" that's just as creepy! She has a love in her life, and she will love him until she's good and ready to move on, and a creepy note some kid left in her shoe will never change that! My girlfreind has gotten flowers from her admirer, gotten invitations to the movies, guess who she takes to the movies, meeee!
Im sorry to break your balls, but she is off limets and if you do any thing you will get emotionally and physically hurt!
And about you loving her, you don't even have enough emotional history or atatchment to declare love for her
Love is decided after time to get to become emotionally attatched to a girl, falling in love not just with her looks, or if she's nice to you, but the way she is to others, the little things she does, and the way she expresses her self!