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sweetpie88 · Jun 18, 2009, 01:29 PM

I'm going to try to keep the story short... Ok so I have been friends with someone for 6-7 years and since then she had been manipulative and she has lost friends because of this. Me and my friends confronted her about her behavior and she did change but eventually went back to her old ways. I don't want to continue my friendship anymore because this is probably who she is and probably won't change like I thought she would. I do not want to confront her again because I don't want things to get out of hand and I don't want any trouble. I forgot to mention that I don't hear from her often like she doesn't call or anything like she would only call if she wants to hang out... So what is the best for me to go about this?

jenniepepsi · Jun 18, 2009, 01:33 PM

I had to deal with this as well a few months.

Your best bet, is to change your cellphone number, and don't call her. I got lucky, I moved around the same time so now she can't find me either. But I doubt you can just pick up and move. But cut all ties. No phone, no net, no visits. Nothing.

justcurious55 · Jun 18, 2009, 02:45 PM

Don't call her. And don't answer when she does call. Sometimes its easier to let people drift away rather than tell them to stay away.

cozyk · Jun 18, 2009, 02:57 PM

Be unavailable and if she catches on and ask you what is up just say, you are so manipulative and it gets on my last nerve. Have a couple of examples ready if she denies it.

Plain and simple. Like yanking off a band-aid.

N0help4u · Jun 18, 2009, 05:19 PM

I agree with the others.
Do not call her
Do not answer her calls
When you do answer her calls be brief -don't get into any chummy conversations
If she wants to hang out tell her you are too busy.

You are right. You told her once. She is not going to change.
People like her like to get insulted and hurt and take it as being personally attacked when you offer constructive criticism.
She sounds like a passive aggressive type.
You are best avoiding her.

sweetpie88 · Jun 18, 2009, 05:31 PM

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

i had to deal with this as well a few months.

your best bet, is to change your cellphone number, and dont call her. i got lucky, i moved around the same time so now she can't find me either. but i doubt you can just pick up and move. but cut all ties. no phone, no net, no visits. nothing.

Yeah I guess I am going to have to distance myself from her.

sweetpie88 · Jun 18, 2009, 05:34 PM

Originally Posted by justcurious55

don't call her. and don't answer when she does call. sometimes its easier to let people drift away rather than tell them to stay away.

I guess that's true.

sweetpie88 · Jun 18, 2009, 05:37 PM

Originally Posted by cozyk

Be unavailable and if she catches on and ask you what is up just say, you are so manipulative and it gets on my last nerve. Have a couple of examples ready if she denies it.

Plain and simple. Like yanking off a band-aid.

Good answer!

sweetpie88 · Jun 18, 2009, 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

I agree with the others.
Do not call her
Do not answer her calls
when you do answer her calls be brief -don't get into any chummy conversations
If she wants to hang out tell her you are too busy.

You are right. You told her once. She is not going to change.
People like her like to get insulted and hurt and take it as being personally attacked when you offer constructive criticism.
She sounds like a passive aggressive type.
You are best avoiding her.

Very true