[LonleyRoad]

So.. Let me start with some background about our relationship.
We have been friends since playschool, We grew up in the same military community.
I moved to a city 3 hours away and she stayed there. We started dating 2 years ago.
At the start everything was perfect, We loved each other. Absolutely and unconditionally. We honestly thought we were going to get married, she even told me she couldn't wait to be my wife. Well. The only problem was, she lived 3 hours away and at the time I didn't have my license so I had to take the greyhound to see her, Which I did every few weeks and on holidays. We were unseperable when we were together. Well A year later she moved to where I live for college we were both exstatic that she got accepted and had a dorm room that was a bus ride away. I went to help her unpack and spent the night with her. Everything was fine we'd go on dates frequently, text each other during the day and call each other to say goodnight. Then my birthday comes around she dumps me. Now this was a surprise.. The reason she said she dumped me is cause at college she didn't want to deal with me being jealous about every guy she is friends with. And I am a jelous person, but I trusted her fully and was never scared she would cheat on me. I told her how I felt about it and left her dorm. A few days later I get a call saying that she wanted me back and that she was so lonely. I said I'm on my way and we got back together. Like nothing happened this went on for another 6 months then, I go to see my grandparents one weekend and she decides it would be fun to hit up some local chat rooms, She meets 2 guys and becomes friends with them. She tells me about them and I assume that she met them at school and was like that's cool. Then she said oh no they don't go to school here, I met them on lavalife.. Then I said you know that's a dating site right? She was like no I didn't know that! But she keeps talking to these guys. Just as friends. Then she goes to the mall with this guy from turkey and doesn't tell me about it so I won't get jealous. He buys her a webcam. Then they go to a bar with a few of her friends. She tells him to come up to her room till his taxi gets there. She gets really sleepy when she is drunk.. so she laid down and started going to sleep. Then she wakes up with this guys hands unzipping her pants and groping her breast. Tells him to get the hell out then calls me appologising for not telling me that she went out, and what happened and if I could come see her so I took a taxi there at 2 am. She tells me all about it and I tell her to not talk to him anymore and she agrees. Then everythings back to normal for a few weeks.. So cool. Then things went downhill from there, she kept talking to the guy after he apologised, and I told her how I felt about it and she told me to stop being jealous.. Then term comes to an end and she has to go home. She stays with me and I help her unpack, everything was perfect for the week she was here. That was the last week I saw her, We kept in contact for 3 weeks constantly, Then all of a sudden this week everything changed. She called me at 6 am telling me she got her car taken away and that she had to walk to work and then she hung up saying I love you. Then all of a sudden she ignores me for 3 days straight, I talk to her on msn she says 3 things to me. Hi, Nm. Bye. That was it. Then I asked if I could call her she said No. Then I confront her about it and she said we are done. And I asked why and she didn't tell me or give me any reason.. Now I feel like she's been playing mind games with me from the start and I need some closure.. To know what I did wrong. SO I don't really know what I'm asking.. I guess I'm just looking for opinions.. Im sad.. And I feel kind of lost. But not exactly.. Depressed? I don't know I love her still but I'm tired of the games she plays. So I'm sorry if this is in the wrong forum or if this really inst a question.. But yah. And sorry if my english isn't that great my first language is french.

Thanks for all the input and opinions.. Any help on the matter would be appreciated as well.

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When a girl tells you that she's sick of your jealousy and she hasn't done anything to warrant it, then she has a point. When a girl tells you she's sick of your jealousy after repeatedly proving herself untrustworthy, then that's her problem... which she should solve by only keeping those boyfriends who seem OK with the arrangement.

Personally, it sounds to me like the only favor she's done you this entire relationship is dumping you. She's very obviously not ready or willing to commit to you. She comes up with very bad excuses for fooling around on the side. She tries to make it sound like it's your fault for being "jealous" when all indications are that she doesn't deserve to be trusted.

I'm very sorry. I'm sorry that this relationship wasn't what you hoped it would be, and I'm sorry that you had to find out the hard way, and I'm very sorry that you feel sad and lost - something to which I think most of us can relate. But frankly, I'm not all that sorry that she's cut you free - because now you really are free - to find someone new who will appreciate you and give you the respect you deserve.

[I wish]

If you want advice in French, you can private message me (through the forum) or I can type the advice in French. But for now, I will sitck with English so that others can read and understand.

First of all, I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. You're right, it did sound like you had a good relationship, but it started going downhill when she wanted to meet new guys and not tell you about it.

Anyway, there's no point looking back and analyzing all the details because the bottom line is that she had a change of heart. I highly doubt that you did anything wrong, it's a build up of many problems and one day she decided that she had enough.

I agree that an explanation will help with your closure, but it won't change the fact that you are broken up.

She obviously doesn't want to talk to you. So the best option would be to leave her alone and start moving on with your life. Don't try to contact her anymore, that will just cause you more misery because you will try to interpret all the little signs and details. That will just prolong your pain and suffering.

Here are the no contact rules: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html

[LonleyRoad]

Im not quite sure how to reply in this but thanks for your answers.. they made me feel a whole lot better about the situation. =) And english is fine I need to keep learning it xD But the advice is awesome and like I said its changed my mood. Thank you guys for being awesome!

Salut!