[neha_ks]

Hi,
I'm basically frm india and my boyfriend had prev love.he prev loved some girl but as the girl's parents didn't agree for the marriage they broke off.He met me and proposed me and I accepted.He confessed his prev love to me.I got irritated.I wanted to be his one and only love.but as I love him more, I said OK.but I couln't erase his past memories.when he talks nicely with me,my mind is thinking he would have been talked like that to her also.I can't imagine him kissing other girl.sometimes I'm feeling like disappointed and cheated.I want leave him but the thing is I madly love this guy. He says that he forgot her totally. Because of my confusion I'm fighting with him often. I want to erase his past memories from my mind.I don't know how to do that.please advice

[Krs]

Firstly welcome to AMHD,
Secondly how long after your boyfriend split up with his ex did he meet and propose to you?
And how long you 2 been dating?

Its very important under most circumstances to realise no one can change anyone's past.
Imperative to concentrate on the present and the future.

[chuff]

I think your going to cause a break up and then be upset with yourself later for doing this. If the only problem you've got with this guy is that he dated someone else before he met you than I'd have to say you don't have a problem. Don't sacarfice your happiness in the future because of his past.

[Wildcat21]

Well, for one - there are always old loves - lost loves. He is with you now. This is the PRESENT. You can't do anything about the past - never.

But, I also wouldn't rush into anyhting with him. HE STILL NEEDS TO BUILD YOUR TRUT.

DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTNCES RUSH INTO A MARRIAGE.

See how things go.

Sounds like he pasy you a lot of attention - that says a lot!!

[Wildcat21]

One other thing they - EXs for a reason.

[s_cianci]

Well, his past isn't going to go away, no matter what you do. Right now you have to adopt the attitude that "he's mine now." Unless he gives you any concrete reason to doubt his loyalty and devotion I really don't think you have anything to worry about.

[talaniman]

Your insecurities will sour any feelings he has so get your act together and forget the past. YOU can't change what has already happened.

[neha_ks]

Hey guys thnks a lot 4 your advice.I ll try to forget te past but that s most difficult.We know each other for last 1 yr.anyway I ll try to sort things out

[Krs]

You have to sort things out because if you keep dwelling on his past it will only come back to haunt you now.
So be wise and brave and just forget it.
That's all u can do. You can't change his past! Period.